<p>I'm sorry to post under a different name, but I really need help, guys.</p>
<p>My friend and I planned a trip for a few day before school starts, and now we have a big problem.</p>
<p>Let me give you some info about her. She is a very good kid. Doesn't get into trouble, doesn't even drink but her parents are super over-protective, and there is no way they would want her to take the trip even though all we are doing is going to visit New York for a couple days and shop.</p>
<p>She was going to come to school early and just go, but now that there is a huge storm coming in, and her parents won't drive her or let her drive. They also won't let her take a bus to school (yeah, I don't know why either) unless she can come up with a really good reason why she needs to be on campus earlier. Classes don't start for about five days.</p>
<p>Please, does ANYONE have ANY suggestion why a college student might HAVE TO be on campus early. Keep in mind, they know all her activities and commitments, so it has to be pretty creative.</p>
<p>I'm sorry for the post, but if anyone has any ideas, please let me know. </p>
<p>I know this is all screwed up, but right now, we just want to be able to take the trip and not deal with it.</p>
<p>it sounds possible that her parents might have some idea that she has something like this planned and that's why they won't let her get there early.
if that's the case it'll probably be impossible to convince them.
how far away from your school does she live? could she get a ride in with someone else who "just happens to be getting there early?"
I really don't think at this point you're going to be able to come up with a convincing idea. you might need to think of a different plan for the trip.</p>
<p>Sorry...but it's probably not a good idea to have her lie to her parents in case something were to go wrong on your trip and she had to fess up and get help. that could be very damaging to her relationship with her parents.
It's too bad her parents are overprotective but perhaps you can gain their trust and the two of you can go on the trip with their blessing instead of trying to sneak around them.
Plan for the long-run...if you and your friend shatter their trust now, think about what it would mean for your relationship with your friend later (for example, her parents may be far less willing to let you hang out with her and do whatever they can do prevent that.... perhaps even forcing her to withdraw from that school and transfer somewhere else to avoid bad influences). On the other hand, if you go to them and ask and obey if they say "no," and build their trust, you may be able to do such trips more easily with your friend in the future.</p>
<p>We are both seniors in college, and it's been that way for four years. They are really not changing. Keep in mind that I also don't drink or do drugs or anything like that. If something happens, my parents can always help us out.</p>
<p>I am just really in need for some ideas.</p>
<p>I am pretty sure her parents don't think she has anything planned.</p>
<p>No, but thanks! Any ideas anyone has are so welcome! We've planned this for so long, actually since the middle of fall term. It would just be such a letdown.</p>
<p>Is she in any groups or societies that could have a back to school dinner?</p>
<p>edit: To those who say "DONT LIE TO PARENTS TEE HEE" this is a college senior who is 21+. She can take a trip to NYC if she wants and because her mom is phsyco she gets treated like this. If her mom was reasonable there'd be no need to lie.</p>
<p>If you're both seniors, how is her mom preventing her from leaving earlier?</p>
<p>As a senior myself, I really see little way my parents could actually prevent me from leaving for school if they wanted. Sure, they could threaten to cut me off financially or something, but would this girl's parents really do that?</p>
<p>If her parents really know every activity she's in, it'd be difficult to come up with good reasons to return early. Does she have an on-campus job or something that she could use an excuse?
If she's 21, what are her parents' reasons for not wanting her to go on trips? Could you come up with a good reason to go to NYC? Something plausible having to do with what you and/or she are studying?</p>
<p>If you haven't done study abroad yet, maybe tell her parents how you'll want to make up for that missed opportunity by experiencing a new culture. You might want to try to go the route of a "senior trip", in a sense saying it's her last time as a college student or something. I'm not sure if it'll help, but worth a shot!</p>
<p>If she's a senior in college, then uhh, I dont see how the parents can possibly still be keeping her on such a short leash. Here's a better idea, that doesn't involve lying (which by the way is always completely fine when it's directed at parents ;) Tell her to grow some balls (figuratively) and just stand up to her parents. She's what, 21 now? possibly 22? If she doesn't get out of that situation now, she'll be in even more of a ****ed up positiion than she is now.</p>
<p>Does she live on campus? She could get a call from the RA saying that there was a minor disaster on the floor - maybe a pipe sprung a leak, smoke damage, toilet overflowed - and she should carefully check her stuff to make sure that none of her things were damaged. Then she'd have a reason to rush back to school. In fact, if her things were damaged and she needed to replace them... well, a trip to New York would solve that, wouldn't it?</p>