So my boyfriend lives in an all-male dorm, and I was wondering where I would go to the bathroom when I am there (it’s communal bathrooms)? I think it would be weird if another guy walked in there haha. He has to sneak me in through the side door and its a long walk to a bathroom and plus he would have to sneak me back in. I am sure many other people have been through this situation. I would let him sleep in my dorm bc I live in a uni-sex I guess, we get our own bathroom in our individual dorm. But my roommate would make things awkward and weird, so I am not doing that.
You could have him watch the door of the men’s room in his dorm while you use it. Good for you to be respectful of your roommate.
But what are the consequences for each of you if you get caught in his dorm? Most US colleges don’t have these types of dorm restrictions any more unless they are religious schools. Are you risking your academic future or his? Don’t take this lightly — think about how it would feel for either of you to tell your parents you have to leave college.
it’s not really a big deal here. but I stick out like a sore thumb in his hall bc I’m a girl. I am sure they’d just give me a warning or just do nothing at all.
What about him? Has he signed some kind of honor code, or has the dorm spelled out consequences for violating the rules?
I’m pretty sure the guys aren’t going to care if they see you in the bathroom. If you want to stay in his dorm and dodo on a regular basis, you probably aren’t going to care either.
When you talk about “sneaking” this implies there are some rules. If there are, then as the previous poster suggests, he is taking some sort of risk regarding his housing rules.
Is there a handicapped bathroom in his dorm? Or he could just make sure no one is in the bathroom, and stand outside the door until you are done.
I agree though with the other posters, that if he has to “sneak you in” and his dorm rules prohibit overnight guests of the opposite gender, you are putting him at risk.
Is there a female floor in the building? If so, go there.