<p>Hack her account./</p>
<p>Oh? How is that done? Can you recommend a FB hacker who is both discrete and cheap?</p>
<p>Just ask your mother for her access information and use her account.</p>
<p>LOL! There would be a much easier way to do it- she probably keeps herself logged in to FB on her laptop. I could sneak in to her FB acct while she wasn’t looking, and then just quickly accept my own friend request! </p>
<p>Seriously, I don’t have much interest in stalking her.</p>
<p>Just watched the Onion piece. Now that was hysterical.</p>
<p>I told my D she didn’t have to friend me, although if she didn’t, she might find it difficult to find a computer that she could use.</p>
<p>I’m not FB friends with my children. I have their passwords. It’s a condition of our permission to use the service. </p>
<p>Parenting isn’t stalking.</p>
<p>I don’t FB my son or daughter…I feel like its invading their space and D told me she would NOT be my friend. But I talk to them a lot thru IM or text. But I do have a friend who hacked into her S account somehow and found out a lot of stuff she wished she didnt know. It was eating her up on a daily basis. IMHO I think she already knew most of the stuff anyway…but then couldn’t confront him because she didnt want to admit what she had done…</p>
<p>I can’t really feel that I’m invading a private space when 500 other people, including some she barely knows, have full access. This is not the same as reading your kid’s diary, or intercepting personal messages.</p>
<p>^^^ True, true, I hadn’t thought of it that way. But still… he’s 19 now and should have control of what he allows his friends to see and to decide who his friends are.</p>
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I wholeheartedly agree for teens. Once they are adults though, they are entitled to the same privacy as I am. So if they want to friend me, they can. I agree it’s not stalking to friend your adult children.</p>
<p>My kids warned me not to get a FB account…they said it would eat up even more of my time than CC ;).</p>
<p>^^^^ Browsing thru FB bumperstickers… a procrastinator’s paradise. </p>
<p>Says the voice of experience.</p>
<p>Sigh.</p>
<p>You know, I think that they are entitled to privacy at younger than 18.
At least I wanted to be…</p>
<p>^^^</p>
<p>That’s an odd notion of “privacy”. Facebook is decidedly not private and that’s a big reason why I take an interest.</p>
<p>Privacy is being allowed to get dressed with the door closed or take a phone conversation away from big ears. Privacy is not being allowed to do anythng you want without telling your parents. At least not at 13 or 14. </p>
<p>I also agree that what they post on a site where millions of people have access and they share things with hundreds of their closest friends is not private. As long as you’re not posting on their wall everyday and commenting on everything they do, then I see nothing wrong with taking an interest in your child’s life. Even an adult child. I am friends with my siblings and cousins too. I’m not stalking them or checking up on them. I’m just interested.</p>
<p>I totally stalk both my college kids on FB and they both know it. My daughter actually “made” my account for me, friended me, and got many of her friends to friend me. Took the other child a little longer to warm up to the idea, but now is my friend as well. </p>
<p>Basically, if there’s stuff they want to really keep private, they’re smart enough NOT to post it on FB. That also means they have to be “smart” enough to avoid compromising situations where friends can take pictures of them and post and tag them. So far, I’ve seen nothing involving my kids that even remotely horrifies me. I have, however, seen stuff about or pictures of OTHER kids that really does amaze me (and I’m not using “amaze” in a good way!) I guess some kids either know their parents would never access FB and see this stuff, or maybe they just don’t care. Either way, I don’t think having a FB account is a bad thing and “friending” your kids is OK - as long as they’re OK with it. Hey, if they decide they don’t like the idea, they can certainly “de-friend” me.</p>
<p>(And by the way, it is truly a fantastic way to get a glimpse of your college students new life. Most of the pictures I’ve seen are just sort of funny - but they are definitely doing typical college stuff! It’s more the old h.s. pictures of various acquaintances that are really inappropriate. And I’m happy to say neither of my kids even use really foul language - which is so common on FB. Dropping the “F” bomb is one of my personal pet peeves, and I’m glad at least my kids don’t seem to do it.)</p>
<p>I have friended my kids, but they don’t post all that often. About once a week, so I know they’re alive. Friends my age post more often and it’s a fun way to see what people are doing, even if I never see them IRL.</p>
<p>I’m not on Twitter (not THAT attached to my cell phone) but I follow my kids’ Tweets which is sometimes amusing but more often mystifying (try following one sound bite out of one side of a conversation.)</p>
<p>My kids use Twitter more often than FB to share something interesting…a web site, a pithy comment. My favorite recently was when S said he was at a park in NYC “between a trumpet player and a preacher. Both are running out of material.” :D</p>
<p>They keep stuff private by using Facebook messages. That’s OK with me–I just want to be able to see what her 500 other close personal friends can see.</p>
<p>I think it really depends on the kid and your relationship with them. </p>
<p>I am Facebook friends with both of my kids and mostly use messages to communicate with them. I feel like I’m less in their space that way. It is currently the best way to communicate with my college-aged D. I enjoy seeing glimpses of their lives and their friends, but for really personal stuff they take it elsewhere, which I think is a wise thing. I have seen things on other kid’s walls that surprise me, just because it doesn’t seem smart to put it out there for the world to see. At a minimum, make sure that your kids know about the privacy settings in Facebook. It makes it less likely that the rest of the world will see potentially embarrassing things about you.</p>