<p>my dad just friend requested me, and idk.
i'm kind of annoyed, actually, since i think it's my parents way
of guarding& inspecting what i do.</p>
<p>i'm rarely post on facebook and if i do, it's nothing crazy, but idk.
i've ignored my dad's response for two days, and he's requested m again :(</p>
<p>are your parents your friends on fb& how do you feel about the matter?</p>
<p>My mom and I both don’t want to add each other. My dad has an account, but doesn’t really use it. I think it’s sort of crossing a line - there’s a trust there that we’ll tell our parents what’s going on in our lives - we don’t need to be stalked by our parents. Maybe your dad’s just being affectionate and doesn’t know that you think he’s going to “guard and inspect” what you do. Just tell him face-to-face that you think it’s kind of awkward to have your dad on Facebook.</p>
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<p>I don’t know about you, but to this, my parents would think I was trying to hide something and force me to add them.</p>
<p>My mom is my fb friend and my dad doesnt have one. They keep a close eye on me :P</p>
<p>Privacy settings…</p>
<p>I’d tell my parents to grow up, get off facebook and act like adults, if they had a facebook. But even if they did, I wouldn’t know as I don’t have a facebook. </p>
<p>My parents are in their mid-40s, too old for a facebook.</p>
<p>I am a parent and I would never expect my kids to accept a friend request from me - nor would I ever make one. I also refrain from listening to their phone conversations, and I do not I read their texts. Facebook falls into the same category as these other forms of communication in our house.</p>
<p>But, then again, my kids have never done anything to make me wary or distrustful. When they were younger and just starting out on Facebook (never let them have MySpace Accounts), they had to give me their passwords so that I could check up at any time to see what they were doing on the site. I never did look, the threat was enough for them. Once I gained comfort in their maturity (and friends), I dropped the requirement.</p>
<p>I am not your parent, and don’t know your relationship, so YMMV of course.</p>
<p>I put my parents into friend lists with other adults i friended - my mom’s in one with some younger adults like my godmother, aunt, etc. and my dad’s in one with older adults. That way my certain adults can see statuses with mild profanity and such [which my mom doesn’t mind but my dad really does as he doesn’t swear, etc.], but if, say, I wanted to post pictures that I didn’t want any adults to see, i could easily block both groups. actually, all of my friends are put into a group by where they’re from, for ease.
As for “expecting” me to friend them, my mom originally did because she was wary of her 13 year-old daughter having a facebook [she still stalks, but she rarely comments]. My dad was wary of friending me as he believed that there were just things about my social life that he really didn’t care to know. so according to him i can defriend him any time i want. he doesn’t stalk me.
Just put him in a special group that you can block from seeing certain statuses, pics etc. [just in case. you may not have anything to hide now, but in the fututre there could just be something that it would be crossing the line for your parents to see].</p>
<p>but lol my parents are young and actually got facebooks before me.</p>
<p>Of my friends who have parents on facebook, about half of them are friends with their parents. So I don’t think your dad should take it too personally if you reject his friend request, since lots of other parents aren’t friends with their kids.</p>
<p>I don’t think your dad is using it to spy on you. He would probably try to be sneakier and spy through one of your siblings’ or cousins’ facebooks. He would know that you wouldn’t put anything inappropriate on your page if you knew he could see it (but I do know one girl who has tons of pictures of her partying and cursing all over her page, and she’s friends with her parents and aunts and uncles on facebook and doesn’t seem to care that they can see it)</p>
<p>I love my mom being on Facebook. She’s hilarious on there haha</p>
<p>I told my mom if she ever got Facebook I would block her. So when she got Facebook, I blocked her.</p>
<p>Custom privacy settings.</p>
<p>Not going to do it. Never will. Maybe when I’m 30.</p>
<p>I’m friends with my mom. The last time my mother went on was in June, maybe? She goes on about once every four months with my help (she sucks at computers), so I don’t care. She can barely use her email. Ahem</p>
<p>I friended my mom and dad. My parents are cool, and I don’t have much of a social life that I need to hide from them. </p>
<p>I’m also friends with my grandparents, aunts and uncles, boss, adult coworkers, friends’ parents, several former teachers, former and current directors, the founder of takingITglobal (where I have a service project competing for a grant), and an admissions officer from Oregon State University, so my facebook has to be clean for more than just my parents.</p>
<p>Added parents</p>
<p>No biggie…</p>
<p>Both of my parents are on as friends. As are my grandparents, aunts, uncles, bosses, everyone. I don’t have anything to hide and if I did, I sure as hell wouldn’t put it on facebook.</p>
<p>^Amen.</p>
<p>I really don’t see what there is to be scared of. Even the party kids at my HS don’t put drunk pics on Facebook.</p>
<p>i didn’t want to not friend my parents, then they’d get all ****ed
they dont’ use it to monitor me (but they do sometimes, not that i post anything crazy) but they use it to keep in touch (by pictures, etc.) with our relatives in taiwan</p>
<p>^^ There’s tons of drunk/stoned pics of kids from my school. Most of them have labels and stuff blurred out or turned around so you can’t see them, but it’s clear what they’re doing.</p>
<p>Even though my parents don’t have Facebook accounts, and I don’t have anything incriminating on the site (not that I’ve done anything bad ;D), I would personally never add them.</p>
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<p>Stupidity. </p>
<p>If you’re going to blur it out, just remove them!</p>