Are you actually suggesting threatening the parents with deportation? If so, do this family a favor and let someone else help them.
Have you ruled out learning issues? If she has any and isn’t getting help, she won’t care because all the caring in the world without adequate intervention won’t help. Grounding, taking away phones, and other punishments won’t solve that.
I think that seeing her friends go off to school in cool places should be all the motivation she really needs. I had a similar situation in high school, however my grades or tests were not as poor as hers. I became motivated to work hard in college when I saw all my friends getting into schools in really cool places such as University of Amsterdam, Boston University, University of Miami, etc. I agree with most people here, she is not ready for a four year university, however, she can go to community college (hopefully), and after proving she can handle college level coursework she can transfer out and go somewhere else. I also recommend showing her all the sick places where she could go to school providing she gets her grades up, maybe places in Europe, west coast u.s, or whatever other places you think she would take an intreats in.
@austinmshauri I meant the parents scaring the child and pretending to move lol. They are not actually going to move. In fact they came up with the idea. She has no learning issues.
@Blue4940, What happens if she can’t, or won’t, get serious about her studies this year? She’ll realize they’re bluffing and I don’t think she’ll take anything they say seriously if they do that. It may help her to take a gap year so she has time to mature. Working a full-tume job while her friends are going off to college might motivate her.
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This is also a good idea. Taking a gap year AND working. She’ll likely realize that she needs a degree to get a better job, and buckle down.
Is she fully out of ESL? Have her ESL teachers given her any advice about the best way to proceed? Is she really on track to graduate this year, or can she delay graduation by a year and have time to get her act together?
If she is an ESL student, she needs to spend more time in High School until her English is fluent. She really, really should delay graduation by a year.If she’s under 19 it’s aright for her - so that she doesn’t waste time and money on remedial college classes when she could be taking classes to prepare for college, for free, until she’s 19. Clearly she needs them.
It’s not a matter of being punished, it’s a matter of needing a 2.6+ GPA, excellent English fluency, and test scores of at least 850-900 CR+M in order to be admitted to A (any) college, and understanding she’s not going for now.
BTW if she’s an ELL she may have to take the TOEFL, which is expensive and not that easy if you’re not excellent at English.
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I don’t think she’ll get into NJCU & Saint Peter’s. Their acceptance rates are 41% and 54%. Saint Peter’s is pretty expensive as well. I don’t think she’ll get into any decent four-year school at this point.
She needs to speak English fluently to do well at any college. I live in New Jersey as well, there’s free English classes throughout our state. She should take advantage of these.
I think delaying graduation would be a good idea. A gap year will help her realize how important college is. She can attend community college once she’s fluent in English, and take it from there.
@newjerseygirl98 neither of those schools are “decent”, though. The admitted student stats suggest that she could get in. They’re among the bottom of all schools in NJ.
If she insists against delaying graduation, then Bloomfield College or Felician College may be good for her.
@LBad96 I know, it’s just that they have low acceptance rates, although she’ll probably get into one. I second Bloomfield, that’s where most of my school’s college-bound ESL students go.