<p>Thanks so much! Officially enrolled at the new school. Old teacher not thrilled and I think our relationship is over, but not angry at me personally I think. Anyways, thanks.</p>
<p>Wow, how exciting! Glad it worked out. All the best to you!</p>
<p>I’m happy for you, too! I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately, wondering how it turned out. Thanks let us know and good luck!</p>
<p>I don’t believe that "a top school (among/similar to: Colburn, Curtis, Juilliard, NEc, etc…)"as you describe your current school cannot fill a full pay spot for a MM. There are musicians who would just about kill for such an opportunity. I know dozens of musicians each year who have to let future study aspirations go because they simply cannot afford any loans, any cost for anything. Something is not right here that a top conservatiory can’t fill a full scholarship spot. I think your teacher is being selfish here.</p>
<p>I’m glad to hear that you’ve made your choice and are happy with your decision. Good luck with everything!</p>
<p>@cptofthehouse, of course they can fill the spot, but in some conservatories the wait list is filled by the administration, not the studio teacher. This means the teacher will not have control over the replacement. I can understand why the teacher would be unhappy with the situation. But I still think AloeVera123 did the right thing putting his/her career above a relationship with the teacher. </p>
<p>Congratulations! </p>
<p>I’m glad the OP made the move. Congrats on a tough decision. Yes, Glassharmonica, I think the music teacher was being selfish about this.</p>
<p>Self-ish, self-centered, self-concerned. I didn’t say the teacher wasn’t being selfish but I was trying to explain how the loss of a grad student from a small studio negatively impacts the teacher. The teacher’s ego may also be wounded when a student he’s given support to decides to leave. I can empathize with the teacher even if I wouldn’t behave like that myself. </p>
<p>I think it’s important for students to understand that even a supportive teacher will often put himself and his own needs first. It’s human nature, and the teacher has to be concerned about the composition of the studio. Students flow through the studio and eventually graduate and move on, but the studio is a constant for the teacher.</p>
<p>It’s important for a student to do the best thing for his/her own career, and not to make a decision based on disappointing a teacher. (Sometimes if you cross a teacher with a vindictive streak, your career may suffer, so each case has to be evaluated individually.) </p>
<p>Just wanted to share also that although my old teacher did not support my decision, my old school was very encouraging and made everything to smooth the process (providing recommendations, filling out transfer forms promptly, helping a lot with student visa transfer too beyond what required). This helped me realize I was not really at fault in this situation. Exchanged some very kind goodbye emails with some faculty and staff.</p>
<p>Think about writing a nice letter to the old teacher expressing gratitude for all you learned. Not a letter justifying your decision, but just thanks.</p>
<p>Hunt^ is wise…</p>
<p>And when I say a letter, I mean a physical letter in an envelope, preferably handwritten.</p>
<p>Thank you, I will definitely do this. Do you think enclosing a gift, such as a nice book or a CD or something similar would be appropriate, or just the letter?</p>
<p>Leaving a hole in their studio?? that’s extremely selfish of them. </p>
<p>Your development should be you teacher’s number 1 priority. Being the best in your studio for too long is not conducive to your own growth. You should be somewhere where you are challenged by your peers and have a teacher who is concerned with your abilities and well-being above that of the school (or their own ego)</p>
<p>All the best!</p>