<p>FSU is my number one choice and I just got accepted in December. I really want to go here, and my parents love the campus.
The problem?
My parents hate the distance. It's about 4 hours from where I live, and their business requires them to work on weekends since that is there busiest days.
I was just wondering if anyone can help me think of a solution?
Or for anyone who is in, or gone through the same situation to give me some advice or ideas?</p>
<p>I don’t see that as a problem unless they plan on visiting alot. we are 3 hours away and my son does not have a car. He has a friends there with cars though, so during the first semester, we went to see him once over parents weekend, and then he got a ride home for thanksgiving and for christmas. This semester we probably won’t see him until spring break, and then when he comes home for summer in May. If you plan on going home alot, then FSU probably isn’t for you. You will quickly make new friends and be very busy with campus life. There won’t be much time for them to visit either.</p>
<p>I plan on coming home possibly once a month, but that’s not a problem. I don’t mind the drive, but they want to be able to come up, but like I said, my parents work on the weekend, and they don’t finish till 7:30-8. I’m asking what would be the best solution for them to come see me…like would it even be worth the drive for them to come up on sunday morning and go home tuesday morning? Or do you think they won’t even be able to spend time with me if they do that?</p>
<p>I think you are missing my point - if you/they are already talking about visiting that much, it doesn’t sound like being that far from home is a good option right now. Part of the college experience is distancing yourself from home and meeting new people and getting involved with school. FSU is not a commuter school - everyone lives on campus or very close to campus. You will be too busy to ‘visit’ with parents that often, i.e, one visit from them a semester is more than most parents. Between studying and social life on campus, most don’t see their parents very often until holidays and breaks when you go home to them. Even once a month is a lot - you may think you will do that, but you need time away to settle into college life. The semester goes by very quickly.</p>
<p>You think you’ll visit that often but you won’t have time. It’s time to break away. You’ll see them during the long breaks (Thanksgiving, Winter and Spring Break, oh and Summer). I live a little over 4 hours and only visit them during the long breaks as there is no point driving down for a w/end. It’s also not needed tbh. There’s Skype and FaceTime if they want to see and talk to you. The semesters go by quick and w all the breaks in between it’s like you’ve never even left tbh. They’ve visited me a couple of times but they don’t bother anymore bc they know I’m fine and it’s just a waste of money to frequently visit when I am too busy w classes, studying and trying to hang out w friends in between.
I wouldn’t worry too much about visitations and focus more on of FSU is right for you academically. If so, then focus on that not about distance.</p>
<p>4 hours really isn’t all that long. There’s a lot of people at FSU that are from South Florida- Ft. Lauderdale, Miami, and the like- that live upwards of 8-10 hours from campus.</p>
<p>If your parents want to visit that much, then I’d probably get a bit concerned that they either aren’t comfortable with you “leaving the nest” so to speak, or that they don’t feel like you’ll be able to live on your own. </p>
<p>Trust me, your parents don’t need to visit that often. My parents have only actually visited me on campus about twice in my 4 years here… and both times were before the first semester of my sophomore year ended. We keep in touch via phone calls mainly, and they know that unless they’re getting a phone call from a hospital that things are fine. </p>
<p>Honestly, I’d just tell them the truth: their schedule likely won’t permit them to see you as frequently as they want, and that them not being able to see you on a weekly basis should not impact your college decision. </p>
<p>This is just my opinion, but it’s really just a waste of money to travel 4 hours each way to go home or to see your kid at college (not including any associated costs except for gasoline) every weekend… or really once a month. I went home exactly one time last semester before Christmas break, and I’m only going to go home one time this semester before graduation (not including spring break).</p>
<p>I have friends who go to FSU that travel home almost once a month.
But i’ve sat down with my parents today and we’ve already talked about it.</p>
<p>They want me to focus in school and just try my hardest.
I’ll come home as often as I want or can depending on my time and they’ll try to visit me probably once or twice a semester. My parents talking about visiting that much doesn’t mean they don’t trust me or that it’s not the righr choice.
It simply means that we like to spend time together. My parents trust me and they know i’ll be fine. In my opinion, i don’t think it’ll be a waste of money to spend time with loved ones. But I am going to FSU, and I realized that many families can make it work, and mine will too. Even if we have to make a few adjustments. I can get the perfect mix of distance/independence, meeting new people, and I will keep up with my schoolwork.
I realized I thought to hard on this. It’s simple. If I want to see them, I’ll find a way to ( and of course the holidays) and if they want to see me, they’ll make it happen too. </p>
<p>Thank you for your advice though. (:
Go Noles.</p>
<p>You asked for some insight for those in similar situations so I gave you my personal situation. I was in no way implying that your parents don’t trust you or anything like that.
I also just realized there is a vast age difference between us so it’s a totally different situation. I’ve been living at home for many years and only moved out last year, I’m in my mid-twenties so my parents don’t feel the need to see me often. It doesn’t mean they don’t love me or I don’t love them. It’s just I’m older and we all reach a point where we are ok w not seeing each other as often. If I left at 18 my parents would be like yours wanting to see me often. Which is great and normal but not always needed if it is a problem for them as there are other ways to KIT.
It’s probably just a waste of money for my parents in particular bc I just wouldn’t have enough time for them bc I’m a Senior and a transfer who has a ridiculous schedule that even my advisor thinks I’m insane. I don’t have any options though bc I need to graduate on time. My parents need to save their money tbh bc I make sure to drive down during the Breaks and I call them or they call me during the w/ends.
I’m just trying to get across that neither you nor your parents should feel bad if they can’t make a trip up or you being able to drive down.
I will add there is Parents Weekend during Fall which I think they’ll really enjoy so hopefully they can both schedule time off work for that.
Good luck at FSU.</p>
<p>Oh! I’m sorry, I know you were just giving your insight and I wasn’t trying to imply that I was offended by your words. I understood what you meant and I’m really thankful for you to take your time to reply. </p>
<p>And thank you.</p>