<p>I do however to expect to see him occasionally and those seem like the most logical times to do so. If it is rather inconvenient for him I believe I’d understand. I’m not an overprotective mother or anything, but I would like to see him a couple times a year at least while he’s away.</p>
<p>What exactly do you mean? How often and when? </p>
<p>Christmas and Thanksgiving seems reasonable, altho some kids don’t come home for T-giving because they have finals right after and then come home for a long winter break.</p>
<p>Have you looked at a school calendar to even see if more frequent visits are possible.</p>
<p>It seems like a lot of money/hassle to fly a kid home for a weekend…getting to an airport on Friday after classes via shuttle…arriving late Friday night…visiting with you on Saturday…flying home on Sunday…getting back to campus via a shuttle. That’s a lot of hassle for such a short visit.</p>
<p>As others have said, if the school has a parents weekend sometime in the fall, go to that. </p>
<p>BTW…it’s not unusual for a college student to have plans with pals over Spring Break and not want to come home.</p>
<p>S - Chicago/East Coast - (now a grad) fewer and fewer home visits over the years.
D2 - 2 hours away - (jr) all major school breaks, but she’s trying desperately to find away-from-home work for the summer
D3 - 1 hour away - (fr) all major school breaks, whenever her roomie’s boyfriend is in for the weekend (once so far this year), whenever she feels a little overwhelmed, when she’s sick, when she’s irritated, when room draw doesn’t go as planned…but then we turn out to be flawed in some important way and she’s happy to return :)</p>
<p>My daughter is at school about 300 miles away with no airport close enough to get to.</p>
<p>It’s a 7 or so hour train or bus ride and about 6 or so by car. NYS speed limit is lower than in other states from what I hear.</p>
<p>First year, she came home for Thanksgiving and winter break but did a volunteer service project for spring break. This year, she came home for spring break but announced that she is only coming home one month for summer and then is going back to school, where she has a job on campus which will give her room, board and about $2,000.00 in pay.</p>
<p>When she set up her schedule for next fall, she made sure to get Friday off so that she could come home for Columbus Day; her school has Monday and Tuesday off but she didn’t come home before since the earliest train she could get was Saturday afternoon.</p>
<p>She hasn’t come home for the Jewish holidays yet but I haven’t checked next year’s calendar.</p>
<p>I miss her but speak to her every other day at worst and multiple times a day at best.</p>
<p>DD is on the opposite coast (East) and come home for spring break, summer, thanksgiving break and Christmas break.</p>
<p>During the first year Christmas break was full 6 weeks but during Sophomore year it was only 2 weeks as she went back for classes during IAP.
Summer after freshman year she did an internship near home so was with us for full 3 months but this time she will be interning near college for 12 weeks so will be home only for 2 weeks. </p>
<p>We are planning to visit her during the 4th of July weekend coming summer.</p>
<p>One will be about an hour away (same general city); the other will be halfway across the country. Nonetheless, the current plan is the same for both: Parents weekend, Thanksgiving, Christmas, spring break, and <em>maybe</em> one other visit - we’ll have to play that by ear. We are deliberately playing keep-away from the one who is in our general area – he needs his space, too, and it’s not fair to hover over him because I can’t hover over his sister!</p>
<p>D is 2 1/2 hours by car away and she has a car. We see her for Thanksgiving, two of the three week Xmas break and part of her one week spring break. We saw her every other weekend during the summer due to her job. This summer she will stay on campus and work for the university. We have negotiated one weekend per month over the summer.</p>
<p>We are glad she is working hard and enjoying college. We text back and forth once or twice a week and Skype about twice a month.</p>
<p>Oh, this kills me. We have been living in China during my son’s soph year. it really made me depressed when he went to his girlfriends for Thanksgiving as that is a big family holiday for us. We saw him for two weeks during his winter break and I’ll be with him for some of the summer. Chatting is tough due to the time difference, but over all I’m miserable with the arrangement.</p>
<p>West coast family with east coast college attending kids–kids only came home for Christmas and summers. Thanksgivings were out. By the time you factored in travel time, and the possibility of delays, it didn’t make sense.</p>
<p>We did try to make it out to school for campus sponsored freshmen, etc weekends.</p>
<p>We fly them home at Christmas and for Summer break. It’s too far for their short Thanksgiving break. They miss us, we miss them but it’s all good.</p>
<p>D is 12 hours away. Freshman year she came home for Winter Break and a few weeks in the summer. She was miserable and homesick, it was too little the first year. Our family had some extenuating circumstances that year which contributed.</p>
<p>Second and third year, she came home for Thanksgiving. Her birthday is in November so that was her birthday present. Airfare was really expensive last year so I don’t think we will do that next year. Every year she has come home for Winter Break. Spring break, second year she found a ride within 3 hours of us so she came home and this year she found a ride one way to my sister’s house so I met her and drove her back to campus. She came home last summer as she was very homesick but is trying to find a job anywhere this summer. There are no job opportunities in her major in our area. </p>
<p>D will not network and try to find rides anywhere though. She does have family and friends not as far as us from campus but won’t find rides and other than flying it’s not easy to get where she wants to.</p>
<p>My D just got braces at 18 with our family orthodontist ,so she started coming home 1x a month for adjustments and we love seeing her ! Her 3 brothers came home only on standard vacations ,so this is a treat . She did not want to see someone we didn’t know in Boston . She is 5 hours away by train .She comes late at nite ,has adjustment in AM ,and takes train back next day .This is only a 6 month treatment .</p>
<p>My kids are 350 and 200 or so miles away. The oldest has come home for all the school year breaks, but has spent the last two summers on the other coast - sometimes with less than 24 hours with us at either end of the summer. The youngest is just a freshman. He’s come home for all the breaks, but spent 3 out of 4 weeks of winter break in Pakistan and India doing research for a class. Next summer he’s going to be away for 7 or 8 weeks at a language program.</p>
<p>The last time I spent any extended time with my family was the summer after my freshman year - and even that was only part of the summer. I am not expecting my kids to be any different.</p>
<p>D1 came home for every break - midterm (4 days), Thanksgiving, Winter (4-6 weeks), spring break (one week). We also visited in between whenever she had a performance. We used to live 4 hours drive from her school. This last year we moved 2500 miles away, but she still came home, and of course we paid for her travel.</p>
<p>D1 had heavy course load, like every college student, but her visits home never got in the way of her getting her work done. She sometimes left a day earlier or went back a day later. </p>
<p>This past spring break she went away to Cancun with her friends, but she still managed to come home for 4 days for a visit.</p>
<p>I don´t think we ever made her come home, she just assumed she would and so did we. We always enjoyed her visits. She will start with her real job soon, and she most likely will not be getting many vacation days initially. We´ll miss her, but I think we probably will make a point to fly up to see her on some weekends.</p>
<p>D1 goes to school 45 minutes away, so she comes and goes, which is nice.</p>
<p>D2 will be going from the west coast to the east coast this fall. We’re going to go back for parents’ weekend in late September, and we are not going to bring her home for Thanksgiving. It’s expensive, and I think it’s a great growing-up experience to spend a holiday away from family, with friends. We can’t afford to bring her home 3 times a year, and so we figured spring break will be more valuable to her than Thanksgiving, because by March this SoCal girl will be really sick of the snow and ready to thaw out!</p>