<p>Glad that is over. She slept most of the way home in the car. Survived the team party last night with out feeling too awkward about not wanting to drink, liked the team and the coach. I would say it was a success. The coach is new to the team this year and the kids seemed to have good things to say about how he is doing so far. Yeah! one down.</p>
<p>Glad it went well. My D has her first one tonight…hoping parties are scarce on a Sunday.</p>
<p>Same here. D embarked on first OV after ACT two weeks ago. Heads off for second next weekend. And then third after SAT2s the weekend after. She’s exhausted and stressed: looming ED deadlines and test scores. Let’s hope she/we can hold it together for just a few weeks more. I guess this is what she’s been training for!</p>
<p>Reading CC always makes me feel so naive. I am blown away by the fact that the team would take a high school senior on an official visit to a party with alcohol!</p>
<p>You and me both! One of the posters here told of a high school junior being taken to a party with alcholl! Just recently found out that my daughter was taken to a frat party with free-flowing alcohol on one of her OV’s. She said neither she, the other recruit nor their hosts drank, but others teammates did. When I asked why she just mentioned this now, she said it wasn’t pertinent to her decision.</p>
<p>Mamabear: I would not have known to expect that to happen either unless I had read about it on this forum in the past. It frankly surprises me too but that seems to be the drill most places. They had a more sedate team function Friday night that the coach was involved in, Sat. was totally different. </p>
<p>We talked about it ahead of time to be sure she knew that it was likely to happen and how she should handle it. The team was going to likely judge her reaction so she just needed to go with the flow. She said she just danced some and eventually she, a swimmer who wasn’t drinking and another recruit left and went to someone else’s house or something. She wasn’t sure if any of the other recruits drank. The party was at the house that the seniors on the team live so it definitely was a team party, not just a party they happened to go to. You are now forwarned, lol.</p>
<p>Last night after having a day to think about she said “I am not sure if it is this school that I love or if I just love college” lol Gotta move onto the next one to figure that out.</p>
<p>Just be thankful the law enforcment community did not drop by as they did with some of the OV recruits my son was paired with. Son and Son’s host had the sense to leave the party exactly one minute before the whole place was busted. Four recruits and four hosts had a lot of explaining to do with the Head Coach. Be careful out there.</p>
<p>My last text to my daughter was “NO ALCOHOL!” so hopefully we have all advised our kids well on that aspect! Her OV involved a Toga Party. Described as “just like in the movies!” Taymiss2: your D’s comment is hilarious. Seems there is an abundance of alcohol and not much care about underage drinking. Guess that’s what we need to expect next year. More reason to be an athlete and not have time for partying!</p>
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<p>Trust me, athletes have time for partying. I’m sure they are responsible before a meet, match or game but to assume that athletes aren’t partying is completely false. In addition to personal knowledge from my daughters team and others on her campus, I have read here on CC and heard from friends kids at other schools that athletes party just the same as other college students.</p>
<p>My D said she specifically asked how much drinking went on usually. She was told during the season it is not much, but now prior to meets starting and after Nationals there is more.</p>
<p>My S was offered alcohol at most of his recruiting visits.This included St. Olaf’s, which is supposedly dry.
At Williams, he had to sign a statement before I left him there that he would engage in no unlawful activity. He was still offered alcohol.
He decided not to drink at the visits. It was difficult to “not appear too uptight” according to him, but once he refused, there was no further pressure. It was more of a “being neighborly” kind of thing than a “prove yourself” thing.</p>
<p>Of course athletes have time to party-but they have expectations before meets, which many take seriously. Since there are meets most weekends all winter, and then homework on Sunday, it kept his imbibing down during the season.</p>
<p>D is going on an unofficial to large university. She’s a junior and will be staying with a team member. I guess after reading this, I’d be wise to advise her that she WILL be offered alcohol - but she should feel comfortable saying no. I’ll make sure she has her water bottle, I guess. Other suggestions?</p>
<p>It really should be ok if she just says “No thank you” If it isn’t, she probably wouldn’t want to go there anyway.</p>
<p>Do the recruits stay in dorms or off campus housing during official visits? Obviously depends on who is hosting and where he/she lives? Do certain athletes volunteer to host recruits, or do coaches ask athletes they feel will represent themselves and the program in the best light?</p>
<p>The recruit generally stays in a dorm - on a futon or floor. The host is generally assigned by the coach. Often a freshman will be hosting, which means the host has only been on campus for a month or 2 herself.</p>
<p>On one of my daughter’s OV’s, she stayed off campus in an apartment with some of the senior athletes. On her other OV’s she stayed in the dorms, with freshmen and sophomores. As far as hosting, it probably varies by school, but it would certainly be in the coach’s best interest to choose hosts that will represent the team and school well. My daughter hosted a couple of recruits last week for their evening activities, but they roomed with upperclassmen.</p>
<p>At my S’s school, upperclassmen host during the first few OV weekends while the freshmen get their bearings and then the task is turned over to freshmen. They always stay on campus.</p>
<p>Thanks for your replies! Was just curious about it, as there are so many housing options for upperclassmen, and figured the freshman really aren’t equipped to host as they’re just settling in.</p>
<p>What’s the protocol/rules/limitations for Unofficial visit. D has been invited to d1 for an unofficial (she’s a jr) but has been invited to spend night with a student athlete in her sport, attend (not participate) in practice, and attend football game.</p>
<p>If it’s unofficial and she’s there on her own dime - she can pretty much do as she pleases. Just no practicing with the team or accepting any gifts (football tickets are ok)</p>