There are many current and former minority students of some well known boarding schools (including Choate and DA) who have posted on social media sites about discrimination they have experienced. Check out the posts. For some students, “unfriendly” schools vs “friendly” schools may be perceived as acceptance, inclusion, awareness, affirmation, respect, etc. What BS’s proclaim in the DEI statements and in their marketing materials, even during Revisit, might be very different than social experience on campus for students.
P.S. DM me if you want links to the social media sites.