What do I SAY to him????

<p>While you're at it, be sure to note that party guys like to get their girls intoxicated. Better hope you're into it.</p>

<p>huh. I'm not, and that could just be the end of that before it begins. I mean, I really like this guy and all, but I don't think he's worth my doing something I'm uncomfortable with. And if he doesn't understand that....oh well. I'm trying to be philosophical - I'm going to college soon (plenty of options).</p>

<p>This is what it should be like:</p>

<p>You: So, how was your Christmas break?
Him: Good, yours?
You: Lonely...wanna go out with me?
Him: Okay.
You: Cool.</p>

<p>fast, easy, and to the point: the best way</p>

<p>haha...no way..it could end up being..understand it could be a NO..but u grow from rejections..then again i shouldnt talk..i never asked anyone out..but ppl always told me..that you grow from rejection..haha
Him:..what?..haha..that was random..(and then he stops talking or changes the subject)..</p>

<p>You: So, how was your Christmas break?
Him: Good, how about you?
You: Well.. it could have been better.. but I'm sure a guy like you has wonderful girls to spend time with..</p>

<p>Let's see where it goes from there.. lol</p>

<p>yeahh i like that..!</p>

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Bluntly ask him to have sex with you. That will do the trick...

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<p>honestly, just go up to him and ask him, and be sincere about it, then see how he reacts, if he says something like: are you serious, that means he likes you, if he says "no way" or something related in an unconvicing way he likes you, if he just looks disgusted at what you are suggesting he doesn't like you, and you don't have to do anything either, just be like gotcha, and then you know if he likes you or not, it is that easy</p>

<p>wow..thats a great idea tooo...</p>

<p>but "ru serious" can also mean..hey i dont mind having sex with you..but thats all....it doesnt necessarily mean he likes you..:..sorry</p>

<p>just plant one on him, smile, and walk away...he'll either be ecstatic or think you're a whore. you got a 51/49 chance...</p>

<p>It's a much smaller chance. A guy likes, at most, one girl in the class. If that girl gave him a kiss and walked away smiling, he'd probably fall in love immediately. If any other girl did, it could get messy.</p>

<p>but what if he was popular and all the grls like him hm...and if a grl sees u kissing him they immediately start getting jealous even if they never noticed the dude b4..then they can start liking him..</p>

<p>Best way.. study together, ask him for help.. at the end.. give him a hug, and plant one on his cheek.. watch his reaction. I did that with my current girlfriend.. I kissed her on the cheek.. and she ended up kissing me on the lips.. whoa.. aggressive, aren't we.. ;)</p>

<p>aww...tlaktan... that's soo saweeet!!</p>

<p>You gotta go for it - I was in your situation and didn't and I paid the price for it - she's basically attached to someone else now. I did my little things to show her I was interested in her - got her a nice unexpected Christmas gift with a nice note I wrote inside it, offered her rides to certain events, talked a little bit, and such. In the end it was just meant to be for us to be friends, and it took me this X-mas break to realize that, but I'm getting over it.</p>

<p>It's a little weird saying this (sort of embarrassing) but in the summer it took me 2 hours (yes two hours) to call this one girl up and ask her to lunch after church one Sunday. But I eventually did it and even though she was busy, I could tell that she appreciated my offer; and I felt great for just being able to even call her. I've been given certain signs that things will not develop any further between us and after being indenial for a bit I've realized that I must move on. I could have pursued her a little more aggressively, but I never had the courage to do so. On New Years did I wish that she were with me for a gentle kiss as were two of my other friend's and their gfs - of course. But things didn't work out the way I wanted, and it's ok.</p>

<p>A great way of letting this stuff out is writing about it. I never really appreciated poetry and writing that much but I wrote a few poems and such about my situation and it calmed me. If you think about this person all the time during the day and then during your dreams as well, then I know how you are feeling, as I did the same thing. It's so much easier to say your going to do something than actually do it, but the greatest risk is not taking one. Good luck in your endeavors.</p>

<p>just tell him you are his property and will do anything for him. thats how i would it</p>

<p>or do the drop-bend-snatch from legally blonde</p>

<p>lol. that's entirely out of character for me, so either way it would catch his attention. I think I may just ask him, like some of you suggested (even though this is entierely out of character for me as well).</p>

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aww...tlaktan... that's soo saweeet!!

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<p>I dunno, she tends to bite on the lips.. Which.. hurts.. But it's a stinging pain that doesn't start hurting until later.. lol..</p>

<p>It's also funny how she does this thing.. whenever we kiss, she always goes on her tippy toes.. strange.. lol.</p>

<p>Sometimes the ladies have to lead the charge to get a relationship going.. that's what my current GF did.. Then again, when we broke up.. whoo.. there was hell to pay.. took me three hours to work up the guts to call her.. Now I'm glad I did (although she reminds me for it)</p>

<p>I was just thinking how it's incredibly exasperating how we BOTH seem interested, but I'm going to be the one taking the initiative....call me old-fashioned.</p>

<p>i don't think you should be tooo forward-- you might regret it later. just start up a conversation with him, casually</p>

<p>like if you want to go to the movies start talking about a movie thats playing that you want to see. "have you seen....? i really want to see that!" once you're talking about it, say, "you know, we should go see that together. wanna go this friday?" don't make it a huge deal, like omg im asking you out this is important to me, just act like it would be fun and easy.</p>