<p>Alright, so, I'm not in college, but perhaps this group of posters can offer better advice because of your worldly experiences at college. </p>
<p>My reason for posting this is really quite silly. I can't even believe I'm letting myself do this. But, I'm at my wit's end. I'm an intelligent, nice, friendly girl. I'm not pretentious, but I know how to have a conversation. I'm pretty, not terribly so, but I'm definitely not ugly. I've spent most of my high school years studying, which paid off, and now I'd like to concentrate a little on my lacking social life. (hah) I'd like to have a boyfriend, but why is it so difficult? I'm not antisocial by any stretch, but I've never been asked out, or even had anything close. Ever. Is this possible? I know how to get along with boys, as long as they have half a brain, because I grew up with a few. Sometimes I will meet a guy, and have a great convo or something, and then the interest just drops off. And it's not that I don't try, I do. I'm just not sure what I'm doing wrong. </p>
<p>Any input would be much appreciated.</p>
<p>Make the first move.</p>
<p>You suggest flirting and making the first move as if they're easy to do. Flirting is not something everyone can do, believe it or not, it takes practice, and someone whose never done it before can't suddenly summon amazing flirtatious skills. And you're advising someone who has never had a relationship before to make the first move? Do you have any idea how scary that it? That's like telling someone who doesn't have their license yet to drive a standard shift on a crowded highway. Geez (I know you're all secretly in awe of my analogy).Why not try giving some advice that aspiring_1010 can actually use.</p>
<p>By the way aspiring_1010, I'm kind of in the same dilemma as you. I'm extremely shy. It kind of sucks.</p>
<p>go to a party, dance a bit, find some guy, talk with him, maybe make out a bit, give him ur number, or get his number, call him/wait for him to call you see where it goes.</p>
<p>yah ur shy, but you gotta knuckle up and be bold. fortune favors the brave</p>
<p>I have a problem, too. </p>
<p>It seems to me, boys only pay attention if you act girly or flirt or ditzy.</p>
<p>Yeah, it's scary to make the first move, but I did make the first move and it worked well for me. It was scary for me a little bit, but I got over that because I wanted to find out from him more than I cared to be held back by fear.</p>
<p>Anyway, I don't like doing things that are unlike me to get a boy's attention, so if you have feelings for a boy, you should act like you do and then pop the question. That's what I did.</p>
<p>I mean, so far, no boy I like has liked me back (i only liked 2), but ya know... I didn't die after asking them. And they are still my friends. So whatever. I mean, the 2nd time I did it, I got a result, but not a relationship. I learned later I don't WANT one with him if I am smart. So its a good thing.</p>
<p>Don't get worried if someone doesn't like you. You need to find the one for you.</p>
<p>you should hit up boomer01</p>
<p>To be honest you should make the first move. Guys love girls who come up to them (the pressure is usually on them to go up and start a conversation, if girls start the conversation guys are much more likely to open up and act interested.)</p>
<p>You didn't give us enough information to really help you.</p>
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To be honest you should make the first move. Guys love girls who come up to them (the pressure is usually on them to go up and start a conversation, if girls start the conversation guys are much more likely to open up and act interested.)
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This is absolutely true. It's extremely flattering when girls make the first move. Guys usually give girls who take the initiative a chance, as long as the girl isn't beastly looking.</p>
<p>Touch his ***** or something. Then he'll know what's up.</p>
<p>I'm not shy, but I'm not obnoxiously outgoing either (which is a good thing)</p>
<p>And, most of the above advice is complete crap and not going to help me. No, firewalker, that's terrible advice. I said I wanted a relationship. I'm not going to give myself away like that, I have way too much respect for myself.</p>
<p>I'm not prude, but I want something more substantial than sex</p>
<p>I also can't stand guys who are immature. Perhaps that's the problem.</p>
<p>lol, you can't stand guys that are immature?? i'm pretty sure you just crossed out like 95% of the straight male population</p>
<p>What the hell did you expect? Shouldn't have expected much from a "college life" forum on the internet.</p>
<p>A little immaturity keeps things fun...it'd be horrible to date someone who was always serious and didn't know how to act silly...ew.</p>
<p>haha i think firewalker was joking, i wouldnt take that seriously aspiring although i'm sure you'd get his attention lol.......and i'm sorry to say it but most guys younger than college age aren't going to be looking for a serious relationship</p>