<p>What options do they have should they choose to keep it? Can they live on campus?</p>
<p>The girl can continue to live on-campus in the dorms until she has the baby. From there, she will need to live off-campus on her own or live in the family housing community if the university has one.</p>
<p>Their babies become too smart for their own good and climb out of their mommies early, often killing the unwed mother. Sometimes the babies end up going to their mommy’s classes in lieu of their mothers.</p>
<p>Other times, the baby simply lives with the mom’s parents or with the mom in low-income housing somewhere (usually off-campus but it would depend upon the school)…</p>
<p>^ lol.
I’d think the babies would be sent to live with the babies’ grandparents/the student’s parents instead of living with the student if the student decides to have the baby</p>
<p>Abortion.
Barring that, most of the people I know who’ve gotten pregnant in college dropped out if they decided to keep it. They may eventually start back to school in a year or two, but maybe not.
I sincerely doubt there would be any living on campus unless there is married/family housing (although this is often reserved for graduate students). I know that my campus does not have this kind of housing available. Most likely they would live off-campus in an apartment somewhere.</p>
<p>i’ve thought about what i’d do if (god forbid!) this happened to me for some reason (like a failure of my birth control or something) & i decided not to have an abortion. i assume that i’d move back home (not far from my campus), become a part-time student and take classes only on tuesdays and thursdays, and work the other days of the week. my mother or my boyfriend’s mother would take care of the baby during the day.</p>
<p>my school does offer family housing. i’m on the women’s affairs committee of our student government, and we’re currently trying to pass a child care services fee increase that would provide daycare services to all student parents with financial need–the student body will vote on the referendum tomorrow; hopefully it passes!</p>
<p>There is no way in Hell my parents would allow me to move back home, particularly after shoveling out thousands for my education - and I wouldn’t blame them. Why should they have to pay, deal, and be burderned with, my mistakes?
I’d have to find a way to handle it on my own, as I’d expect anyone to do.</p>
<p>My mom would let me move back home, since she was also a single parent, but I would abort. I don’t want kids EVER, and I think I would kill myself if I ever had to be pregnant (I have a phobia of pregnancy… it seriously disgusts me to think about anything growing inside of me), so that would be the only option for me. </p>
<p>But I focus on preventing myself from ever being in that situation in the first place: birth control pills AND using condoms, and I would not hesitate to get the morning after pill if I needed it for some reason (although I shouldn’t considering the other 2 methods).<br>
Fortunately, I am graduating in May so unless something really f-ing crazy happens in the next 3 months, I’m safe in this regard anyway.</p>
<p>You see them fall down a flight of stairs, suspiciously.</p>
<p>AUlostchick, why not get some tubes tied?</p>
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<p>If you are young and no kids; young with only 1-2 kids; or if you have just one or two kids it is very hard if not near impossible to get your tubes ties. After my second child at 21 I tried to get my tubes tied and could not find someone that would do the procedure. At 23 and pregnant with child 3 I found someone that would do the procedure and had it done before leaving the hospital.</p>
<p>Rebelcats, you are absolutely correct. Childfree people, and even younger people who do have children, have an incredibly hard time getting sterilized. It’s easier for younger men, there are doctors who will do it as young as 23 on men, but try getting it as a 23 year old woman and you will probably get laughed out of the doctor’s office (esp if you don’t have any children). I’m in an online community for childfree people and one of the many trials and tribulations we discuss there is how hard it is, even for 30-40 year old women, to get sterilized, but many men younger than that on the community (or the husbands of many of the women on the community) have no problem getting it done. It’s gender bias and it’s stupid. Obviously men are just protecting themselves from a big ol’ oopsie, while women… well something must be wrong with them if they don’t want 5043284938293 BAYBEEZZZ.</p>
<p>Why not just go with an IUD?</p>
<p>Not everyone is comfortable wearing an IUD.</p>
<p>“The Mirena IUD can cause ovarian cysts… If perforation, embedding, or pelvic infection occurs, the uterus or tubes may become damaged and lower the chance of pregnancy. In cases of severe damage or infection of the uterus, a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) may be required, resulting in permanent sterility.”</p>
<p>[Birth</a> Control - IUD](<a href=“http://www.birth-control-comparison.info/iudinfo.htm]Birth”>http://www.birth-control-comparison.info/iudinfo.htm)</p>
<p>Not just that but this is another method of birth control that many doctors won’t perform on people who don’t have children. If you listen to the commercial for Mirena, it says “candidates for mirena have a child”. Although I know several people in the childfree online community who got them, most of them had to search around for several months to find a really open, liberal doctor who would perform it (planned parenthood is usually the most common).
People are really terrible about forcing their own ideas of birth control on you. There was a case in the news a few weeks ago where a woman went in to have her IUD adjusted and the nurse just completely pulled it out altogether, and obviously on purpose, because she thought it caused abortion. Basically her response was, “Oh well… oops!” </p>
<p>Additionally getting an IUD or having tubes tied are not exactly pleasant experiences. For an IUD, they must dilate the cervix somewhat to insert it, which is why it is recommended but not required that you’ve had children before. Tubals are incredibly invasive procedures sometimes as well. It is much more simple for a man to get the snip, so to speak. It is also much cheaper.</p>
<p>Or…why not just use condoms and birth control, like she is already doing? if somehow, condoms AND birth control fail, there is always the morning-after pill as a last resort. </p>
<p>I don’t know if i’d be comfortable using the morning-after pill. i’m against abortion (for myself as a personal decision NOT for the whole country) and it would be too hard giving it up for adoption. chances are slim i’d get pregnant though with condoms AND birth control.</p>
<p>^glad to know i’m not the only one with a pregnant phobia. a few years back, i even had to substitute the word with something else. people thought there was something wrong with me. babies are cute, but even looking at pregnant women’s bellies make me queasy.</p>
<p>Sometimes the pregnant student will drop out, give the baby up for adoption, make amends with her own parents, find a new school that’s a better match for her. Sometimes she will have an abortion. Sometimes she will become a single mother in a trailer park with her newborn. At least, that’s what some of my friends did.</p>
<p>What happened to only having sex with someone you would be willing to marry?</p>
<p>We encourage chasity in our children, but recognze that the extended adolescent period of modern society puts pressures on young people that King David (married at 16!) never faced.</p>
<p>Grandparents helping raise their grandchildren was the norm prior to the 20th century. The two generation family is an abberation created by modern corporate culture to better control employees. I cannot imagine not doing everything in my power to help my children and future grandchildren.</p>
<p>If your college or university has no facilities for families, whether single parent or traditional, transfer somewhere that does. Anoher good reason to keep the old grade point average as high as possible.</p>
<p>Abortion should be the woman’s choice. It should not be forced on her by lack of family support.</p>
<p>The idea that a woman’s intellectual life is ended by motherhood or that a man’s life is curtailed by fatherhood and marriage is so wrong to me on so many levels that I have trouble formulating reasoned arguments for my gut feelings.</p>
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<p>I agree, I’m having trouble trying to figure out when I will have time to start up a career and perhaps have a family at the same time. Is it possible to be a successful woman and have a functional family?</p>