<p>“I would MUCH rather see S get his act together and access internal and external resources himself than have us get involved with the advisor.”</p>
<p>I agree. Parents can advise the student such as encourage the student to talk to their advisor and to use other resources on campus. Even if the school allows the student with horrible grades to return next semester, the parent can insist that the student prove themselves by coming home and going to a community college and getting decent grades before returning to college.</p>
<p>Based on our experience with older S, I don’t think it’s advisable for parents to meet with advisors, etc. That S had a .38 (You read that right) fall semester of freshman year, and with that S’s permission, H flew 1,000 miles to meet with S and his advisor. The advisor was very helpful in getting S in an organizational workshop, and helping S pick classes with interesting professors and subjects. Despite this, S – who was one of the top freshman at that school – still flunked out. We later learned that S flunked out because he was partying hard, wasn’t going to class, and was far more interested in partying and going to sports games than doing any academics in college.</p>