<p>Two things: I made a new account to post this thread. I don't want these details about my life to be posted in conjunction with my stats, where I am going to school, etc. Too revealing for my taste. Second, I know this type of thread gets made over and over, but I'd love to get your opinions.</p>
<p>My boyfriend and I are seniors, we have been dating since the summer going into sophomore year. We knew each other for well...ever before that. We are very close and really work well for each other. I don't know what I'd do without him. Here's the catch. He was heavily recruited to play D1 football (I am not going to go into any more detail for his sake) and has already committed to a school. I was accepted ED to my top choice, small LAC school in the northeast. We will be on the same side of the country, but not very close. </p>
<p>We don't really talk about our future next year because I get sad about it. I don't know if it is realistic to expect our relationship to work with him playing football at a D1 school. Not only will we be far apart, but he is going to be tightly bound to his football schedule. It's not like we'll be able to see each other much on breaks, or like he'd be able to come visit me at school. Obviously I don't want to just break up because I don't think it will work, but I don't want to make him feel like he is tied down to me at school, and I don't want my life at school to be affected by my xxxx mile away boyfriend.</p>
<p>I know this isn't really a question, and it's kind of just a long ramble, but what are your opinions?</p>
<p>I’d say, for now, enjoy being a senior. The summer (or spring?) before you both leave, talk about it. Make a pros (perfect for each other, it sounds like) and cons (distance, meeting new people, ect.) list. Seriously weigh how breaking up or staying together would affect your college life. On one hand, having your high school love still with you throughout the beginning months of college could be wonderful - no need for dating or anything like that to distract you throughout getting settled in. However it could also be bad - like you said, being “tied down”, meeting new people with whole new interests, and (maybe) growing up. So, if you decide to stay together after the talk we just talked about (ha!) set some guidelines: i.e., communication (time zones will be same so this should be simple) and commitment (no cheating, dating, but flirting you can’t really control I guess…). If you get to college and think, “Wow! It’s a whole new world.” Then you may want to consider taking a break for a few weeks or months to test out how you like the dating/ single life there. Think about it, you’ve been with him for 3(ish) years out of the 4 years of high school: and that’s a long time. But you’ll be at college for 4 years, which is also a long time. It all depends. Nowadays, Facebook, texting, Skype, ect. will make it really easy to stay in touch; but how will you still see one another? If the travel time is under three hours, this could be manageable: once a month or something on the weekends. But over three hours: I honestly don’t know. All in all, for now, enjoy being together. You both have wonderful futures ahead of you either way (you being accepted ED and him being recruited) so wait until you have to talk about it to, well, talk about it. Either way, don’t let him (or any other guy, for that matter) distract you from your studies (and maybe social life with friends and such?) in college. This is an age-old decision you are facing, and since I don’t really know your situation that well, I can’t be of much help. But that’s what I think. You could also try asking your friends what they would do. Well, I really do hope I helped somehow, and let me know how it all goes! :)</p>