<p>I really don’t even know how to introduce this whole situation, so I’ll just go ahead and lay this all out, point by point:</p>
<li><p>I’m currently a sophomore transfer student.</p></li>
<li><p>I’ve been admitted to UCD, UCI, and UCSB as a Business Econ major.</p></li>
<li><p>Last semester I received a D in calculus and an F in speech. All the UC’s were aware of this before accepting me, because I noted it in my “academic update” form in January.</p></li>
<li><p>In that “academic update” form, I noted that I would be retaking calculus (which is a prerequisite for all three UC’s) and speech (not a prerequisite) during this semester (spring '09).</p></li>
<li><p>This semester, I’m likely to get an F in calculus and an F in speech. I’ll additionally be getting 2 B’s. Overall my GPA for this semester will be just slightly under a 2.0, and my cumulative GPA will be a 3.0, down from a 3.3 last semester, which was down from a 3.6 before that.</p></li>
<li><p>Thus, I’ll probably be rescinded from all three UC’s (I can’t even retake calculus a third time at my community college, and UCI requires <em>three</em> more math prerequisites than the other two UC’s, which means I’d be four math classes behind).</p></li>
<li><p>Meanwhile, my mother doesn’t know I’m likely to be rescinded from all three, and she’s forcing me to go to UCI while commuting from home (which I absolutely don’t want to do).</p></li>
<li><p>I’ve been pleading for her to let me go to UCSB (again, regardless of the fact that I’ll probably be rescinded from there).</p></li>
<li><p>She has said that I’m no longer welcome at home, and that I should go find an apartment to live in.</p></li>
<li><p>I can’t afford an apartment because I don’t have a job. I can’t get a job because I don’t have a car. I can’t afford a car until I have a job. I’ve never asked my parents for a car, because I wanted to save them money so they could afford to help pay for my college (so much for that).</p></li>
<li><p>Basically, I have no college to go to, no home to live in, no work from which to earn money, and no car to go to and from any of these destinations even if I did have them.</p></li>
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<p>…so if you were in my position, what would you do? Other than commit suicide.</p>
<p>Normally I wouldn’t agree but since you’ve failed those classes twice, and they aren’t particularly hard classes to be brutally honest, this might not be the worst decision. Your only other options are to hope that the schools don’t rescind (they might not, not sure about how common it is for them to do so) and go to whichever one doesn’t rescind.</p>
<p>After you get all of the information from the schools sit down with your parents and have an open conversation about your situation. If you can’t get into any colleges you might be able to get them to buy you a beater to get to some job that you don’t need a degree for, and build from there. Can you stay at the CC for another year and actually try this time?</p>
<p>Also, if you’ll be commuting from home they’d have to buy you a car anyway. See if you can get that done before you find out about rescinded offers. And yes, they get to choose where you live unless you plan on paying for it.</p>
<p>^^ & ^^^ Uh…I didn’t fail those classes because I wasn’t able to “get the material”. I placed in calculus two years ago (in high school), and the reason I’ve failed it is because of distraction from problems at home. As for speech, my teacher invited me and one other student (out of a class of roughly 20) to participate in a special invite-only speech/debate competition, so I can assure you I am not bad at giving speeches (and besides, the teacher complimented me on my speeches multiple times prior to that anyways). Basically, I’m not “stupid”, if that’s what’s being implied; I got 5’s on numerous AP exams in high school and scored in the top 1% for the SAT (2190).</p>
<p>But, yes; I am a mediocre “student”, as far as institutionalized academics is concerned. I lack drive and procrastinate far too much. And obviously, I’m not too proficient when it comes to attendance.</p>
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This:
…seems to imply that it would only pay enough to get me through each day, rather than being able to save up enough for college, and this:
…is chump change compared to the $30k-per-year cost of college (aka, $4k out of $60k doesn’t seem very helpful…).</p>
<p>As for the military, I’d rather kill myself on my own accord than be killed without my approval, and I’m not fond of killing people unless I get to know them first. And, I’m not good enough at engineering/medicine to do those types of non-combat jobs.</p>
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My request was for <em>me</em> to pay for that, and for them to pay for what they’d have paid anyways had I lived at home.</p>
<p>Right, exactly what I said, you know the stuff, you just didn’t try hard enough. And I don’t think you’re getting the pay thing. You’re not requesting for <em>you</em> to pay for it, you’re requesting <em>them</em> to give you money which means by definition they’re at least partially footing the bill. They’re under no real obligation to keep you at home so they owe you nothing at this point, you’ve basically effed your own life up by not trying in CC and now you have to deal with the consequences, which are being at your parents mercy when it comes to where you go if you still get in.</p>
<p>Think about it this way. You’re looking at somebody that just failed two relatively easy classes twice, one that you had a proven aptitude at. You obviously weren’t taking it seriously, even after getting what should have been a reality check when you failed once. Would YOU give you money for college?</p>
<p>But again, you’re missing the point. Regardless of whether or not they let me pay for living at UCSB, I’m likely to be rescinded from both campuses anyways. THAT’S the holistic situation I’m referring to.</p>
<p>I think you need to take some time off from school, and decide why you’re there in the first place. Obviously you’re bright enough, but you’re not motivated. You blame the F’s on distractions at home, yet you also got B’s. Someone who’s focused and determined doesn’t end up with the track record you’ve got, all over the map. It’s almost like deep down, you really don’t want to be there, and you’re trying to sabotage yourself. </p>
<p>Get a job for a year or so, and take some time to think about what you want to do with your life. Then you can go back to school with a plan and a vision, and the direction to see it through. You don’t have that right now.</p>
<p>Stop blaming your terrible grades on your family and distractions. It’s time to grow up and take some personal responsibility for the position you’re in. You failed speech and calc. not once, but twice. You failed because you didn’t perform at an acceptable level. If you get rescinded, you brought it on yourself.</p>
Wait…so you took the class twice and did worse the second time? I’m sorry to be mean but…that made me LOL :p</p>
<p>Do you have a friend or girlfriend you could move in with temporarily until you get settled? Also, you don’t need a car to get a job, surely you have public transport or can find a place to walk to? Try to make a deal with your parents - This summer, you will work for 3 months straight, maybe they’ll let you borrow their car or give you a ride. Then once you have enough money saved up for rent, you can move out and continue working and going to CC until you can transfer out again. Your parents are understandably PO’d right now, but since they’re willing to pay for college, they must care about you. </p>
<p>I’m guessing by “distractions” you meant family problems. I’m sorry to hear it, but moving out might be a good option, it’s SO much easier to focus. I commuted from home 1st semester, then got an apartment, and my grades were higher when I lived with my boyfriend compared to my strict parents (sounds weird, but it’s true). Also, do you have any friends who have apartments/studio’s that you could maybe split rent with? If not, look around campus on bulletin boards for people looking for roommates.</p>
<p>And you don’t NEED to go to a college that costs $60K. In NY we have CUNY schools that are like $2k a year, and SUNY schools where tuition is like $6K a year, you’re looking at 2 years of school, it’s not too much money.</p>
<p>If my kids came home from college and I found out that they had failed speech and calc. not once, but TWICE–I wouldn’t pay a dime for them to go back to school the following semester. Grow up. Stop blaming everyone else for your failures. You earned the F’s–TWICE. You didn’t attend classes. You didn’t do the work. You didn’t pass the tests. Maybe college is not for you. Think about getting a job (you may need to work 2 jobs to make ends meet) and live on your own for a year. A year in the “real world” with real bills and responsibilities may help to bring some focus into your life.</p>
<p>“If my kids came home from college and I found out that they had failed speech and calc. not once, but TWICE–I wouldn’t pay a dime for them to go back to school the following semester. Grow up. Stop blaming everyone else for your failures. You earned the F’s–TWICE. You didn’t attend classes. You didn’t do the work. You didn’t pass the tests. Maybe college is not for you. Think about getting a job (you may need to work 2 jobs to make ends meet) and live on your own for a year. A year in the “real world” with real bills and responsibilities may help to bring some focus into your life.” </p>
<p>“Stop blaming your terrible grades on your family and distractions. It’s time to grow up and take some personal responsibility for the position you’re in. You failed speech and calc. not once, but twice. You failed because you didn’t perform at an acceptable level. If you get rescinded, you brought it on yourself.”</p>
<p>Family problems and distractions CAN affect a student’s performance in school.</p>
<p>amby262roy shut up. calculus is not the easiest subject in the world. it’s quite understandable if someone fails calculus. </p>
<p>Anyway, YAwn, you are obviously not an idiot if you got into the UC’s as a transfer applicant. I got rejected from all those schools, and I got an A in calculus, so obviously YOU are doing something right…
but, you are also doing somethings wrong. get your stuff together, put in the time required, and i am sure you will be okay.</p>
<p>but easton!, D —> F, translates into negative improvement
I am sure he can get an A, based on his previous accomplishments which do stand out.
well, I hope you get into the school of your choice but turn it around</p>