<p>Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 21 months now. We get along so well and everything. However, I will be attending a university about 3 hours away from her next year. One thing about her is that she gets very upset when she cant see me for a long time. I don't know what to do when college comes. When i'm in college, it will be difficult to talk to each other and see each other 24/7 due to different lifestyles. I really love her, I just don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her in any way possible, but at the same time, I want what's best for her when the future comes.</p>
<p>Don’t worry: my best friend and her boyfriend were in the same boat at the beginning of this fall, except they are six hours away from each other. Their relationship is just as strong as ever. My friend was really worried about it in the beginning, but they still skype/oovoo all the time, and talk on the phone. He has a car so every couple weekend he’ll drive down and spend the weekend with her in her dorm/apartment thing.</p>
<p>This might not be true in every case, but if you put the work in, you can have the same thing with your girlfriend. Some advice: Don’t make set times to call each other (like every saturday at 3 PM), because then it feels like a chore. Trust her, and be sure that she can trust you.</p>
<p>In the end, one of two things will happen. Either you will break up, which means that your relationship would not have been able to handle rough times later in life, or you and your girlfriend will come out of things even stronger and more appreciative of each other.</p>
<p>I’d keep an open mind but the only way it’ll work is if she can grow up. Sorry to be harsh but if your relationship is going to last in the long run then she should be able to handle the distance. The concept of being away at college is one thing to handle, the distance is another. People change. </p>
<p>I would just see how it goes with the reality in mind that it may not work out. Don’t worry too much about it, no matter how much you love her you’re in college, it’s your experience, and you shouldn’t spend your time worrying about someone else hours away while you’re trying to grow.</p>
<p>I’m in the same boat - my boyfriend of over a year is a college freshman and I’m a high school senior and he’s heading to North Carolina in January (~10 hours from PA, where I currently am). Every school I want to attend is either here or even farther up north so it’s not like we’re going to be closer any time soon. I just figure if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. Maybe we’ll stay together through college, maybe we’ll break up a couple weeks after he gets there and that will be it, maybe we’ll break up at some point in college and get back together when we graduate. I just want us both to do what’s best for us, and while I am upset that he’ll be so far away I know that it’ll be much easier once I get to college and we both have new lives (although if I don’t get into my ED school second semester is going to be a nightmare - I’ll have nothing to look forward to!).</p>
<p>But just remember that at 18 years old relationships are all about the present. The best thing you can do is play it by ear. You’re going to have a new life at college so try to integrate her into it.</p>