What's with all of these private college "rich, snobby, elitist" comments?

<p>I resent royalty, because they get to wear crowns. People make fun of me when I wear mine.</p>

<p>Only because itā€™s made of paper and says ā€œBurger Kingā€ on it. :D</p>

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<p>I really do think that the skill to be able to feel at ease in any crowd is an important life skill to have. I would NOT want my kids to feel ā€œinadequateā€ or intimidated compared to any of their future classmates who might have come from far more wealth or whatever ā€“ I want them to be able to move in any world, if that makes sense.</p>

<p>Hunt,
Here is very resoanble and acceptable explanation. But I actually never saw anybody making fun of any kind of beuty or prom queen, others are jelous, but not making fun. Well, it would not be job appropriate attire at most places, but other than that, I do not make fun of other people clothing and head coverings. We are still in free countryā€¦or maybe not so any more, actually. Besides, thinking about not being free, bullying is not allowed, one might go to jail making fun of your crown. Yep, just file a law suit and continue wearing one, that is what I would do, but my neck is messed up as it is and my hair is not thick ehough to wear crown.</p>

<p>I will just say thisā€“from what Iā€™ve seen, if anybody is intimidated by other other kids at the Ivies, itā€™s not because of their wealthā€“itā€™s because they published three novels, started a charity that cured a disease, and received an Academy Award at age seven.</p>

<p>^We will see how my D. will feel being surrounded by kids from Ivyā€™s at her Med. School. She has mentioned that there are many at hers. She is never impressed too much with anybody, she is just looking to have fun with friends in the tiny amounts of free time that they will have.</p>

<p>Drastic differences in disposable income between students can sometimes cause friction.</p>

<p>^Medical students do not have disposable incomes, they cannot work. Most have loans, some do not, nobody is discussing this except for rental office. I do not know any Med. Student living in mensions either, most live in studio apartments and walk to their classes, although some have cars if it make sense.</p>

<p>Well, as the spouse of a former med student, there certainly were very well-to-do families with big-time money ā€¦ We went to weddings of his classmates that were drop-dead gorgeous, H went on a classmateā€™s familyā€™s private jet for a ski trip, etc. But ā€¦ so what? Some people have more money, some people have less. Cā€™est la vie.</p>

<p>^But, how others will even know if anybody cares at all? D. is curious to see what big name schools kids are made of. Apparently they had no advantages in regard to Med. School admissions. She will have others from her UG also, but lots from ā€œfancyā€ schools - her label. She just went to state UG on full tuition Merit award and had a ball there. Will see, interestingā€¦I do not see how having money will influence future of MDā€™s, will not help getting better residencies, got to have high Board score, cannot buy it.</p>

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<p>GAMOM, Iā€™m not sure where in Atlanta you live but in the priciest areas I would say that this is not true. UGA will get you as far in some cases, but I wouldnā€™t say further. Thatā€™s simply the product of having a good state school option near a major city - many alumni live in the city and thus are in positions to hire.</p>

<p>Iā€™m trying to think of other examples around the country, but IMO Atlanta is pretty unique. Texas is similar but a degree from UT and A&M will actually probably get you further than HYPSM.</p>

<p>son attends one of those ā€œrich, snobby,elitistā€ private schools as a public school grad and Iā€™m putting him through on a state university professorā€™s salary, and I really canā€™t say thatā€™s been a problem at allā€“Kids are high achievers from families with high average incomes who tend towards the preppy and the pre-professional, but there are lots of other kids from same background as sonsā€“Sonā€™s main observation is that they arenā€™t all serious students, but are the sort want to go to law school or go on Wall Streetā€“Even the real preppies donā€™t dress preppy-while there are exceptions, standard class uniform is hoodies and jeans.</p>

<p>that said,a lot of these LACs do have ā€œpersonalitiesā€ and tend to attract particular kinds of kidsā€”Swarthmore/Reed tend to get one sort of kid; Williams/Amherst another and you should be concerned with ā€œfitā€</p>

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<p>This wins my nomination for ā€œquote of the weekā€ā€¦and the ā€œpot calling the kettle black awardā€.</p>

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<p>Hunt, considering the high school from which they came, your kids donā€™t have reason to be intimidated by anybody.</p>

<p>But magnet school elitism is a whole different subject. ;)</p>

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I wouldnā€™t say my son has been intimidated at Yale, exactly, but heā€™s certainly learned that no matter how big a deal you were in high school, you will run into people who were a much bigger deal. And a lot of them are really nice, too, so you canā€™t even despise them!</p>