eh1234, our kids should meet.
My 17 year old is working her tail off at her part time job. And she is absolutely convinced that she wants to go away to school. I pretty much dragged her to see one in January, and she liked it. A second I dragged her to in June was an absolute NO before the tour even started-- we made our excuses and came home.
And that’s it. She has a rough draft of an essay, thanks to an assignment from a great Junior year English teacher. But it needs editing, and that hasn’t been done. Every time I bring up the idea of touring a school, the arms are folded and she gets “the look.” Forget about the mention of SAT prep.
I think she has a bit of a Peter Pan complex-- she’s afraid that looking at colleges will mean she’s an adult, and that kind of kicks her anxiety into gear.
And, like Lindagaf, I love the process. Any sort of a project is right up my alley. I have a whole set of schools she should be looking at all ready for her.
But the reality is that the more I nag, the more we argue. So I’m not going to nag this summer.
There are 2 SUNY schools that are pretty close to each other that she should look at (Delhi and Oneonta). Her odds are far better at Delhi unless her SATs improve, but I would like her to see both. So I think that’s where I’ll focus my “suggestions” for the summer. If I can get her to go for a second tour, great. And if she wants to bring a friend along, fine-- an overnight at a hotel isn’t significantly more expensive if she brings a friend.