C’mon lookingforward, I quote exactly a part of what you have said, without destroying its meaning in any significant way, and you object in #807.
Then immediately in the same post, you create a straw man of what you imagine I think. It is not what I think at all. I find the opinion you are attempting to attribute to me objectionable. I have never said anything like that.
I did once comment that there were some students who could not participate in ECs because they had to take care of siblings. This was not a “poor them” comment; it was an objective statement about a specific friend of mine. She had to take care of her younger sister when most of the ECs were meeting, and then she needed to fit in homework later in the evening. Her mother worked outside the home. Substantial responsibility fell on my friend. It happened more than once that she missed the bus while she was helping her younger sister. Then her mother drove my friend to school. And if it became apparent that they would not get to school in time, and my friend would wind up having detention, then they turned around and went home. The mother had to have my friend at home right after school to take care of the younger sister.
This was the first comment that I made (in a briefer form–there is even more to the story than I have posted now), and it elicited a complaint from you that it was a “poor them” comment from someone (me) who was unaware of how amazing students from lower SES groups, etc. could be. That is not the case at all. My friend was amazing, actually, just not amazing in the way that usually gets a lot of credit from admissions committees at highly ranked colleges.