<p>I've been a long-term relationship for 4 years and then some (yes, since 8th grade). We haven't had sex and don't plan to for a while anways (yeah, I'm waiting, take that!), so yes you can be in relationships for things other than sex! He's my best friend, and we talk to each other about everything. It's just so nice to have somebody you can hug when you've had a bad day, and we always have lots of fun going out (with friends or alone). We've applied to mostly the same places, and we're even planning to go to Europe together (alone) this summer.</p>
<p>I think high school relationships can be meaningful if you want them to be. Why bother?... I know that without my boyfriend I would probably be a stressed out nutcase and he would be too. We need each other to calm down, talk, be together, anything really. Just being with him makes my day. :)</p>
<p>It is definetly possible to have a relationship and a great high school record. I'm actually one of the stronger candidates for valedictorian this year (our school has a whole audition process) and I have the highest average in french immersion IB. We both know that school comes first, and my marks have actually gone up every year since we've been together. I'm also in a ton of time-consuming ec's, but all we really have to do is make sure we get some time together every day - lunch, hot chocolate after school, etc., and it's all good!</p>
<p>High school can be a pretty lonely place without best friends and girlfriends. After all, why bother finding a best friend if you shouldn't waste time finding a girlfriend?</p>
<p>My girlfriend and I (2 years May) are also waiting on the sex. I think she's waiting till marriage, I'm waiting till college! And no, we're not "perfect" for each other -- we'll be 10 hours from each other in a few months (we're senior) and our relationship probably won't last. But it's been a lot of fun along the way!</p>
<p>I agree that dating in high school is all just part of an experience. (Do you automatically expect yourself to be smooth simply because you're in college?) And as far as I am concerned (among my circle), no one is into sexor is willing to admit it.</p>
<p>However, let me say this, long distance relationships suck. No matter how much you love your significant other. Suck.</p>
<p>I think relationships in high school are totally worth it. Even if they don't last they are important as you learn so much from them. I've had a couple boyfriends throughout high school and I learned some very important lessons from them. </p>
<p>My boyfriend and I will likely be quite far away from each other, the closest at all possible would be like 3 hours, the farthest a plane ride from NC to CA. We haven't really talked about what we're doing next year too specifically, but we are going to continue being friends and see each other if nothing else. I think we're going to try to make it work, but there are never any guarantees. And if it doesn't work out I'll be happy that I had something great at least for a short while and move on with my life.</p>
<p>of course they're worth it no relationship lasts for ever and usually when high school relationships end many times its not because of graduation and moving out of state.</p>
<p>As they say on the 40 year old virgin. stop putting the P**** on a pedestal :D</p>
<p>I think relationships, just like colleges, are just what you-yourself make of it.
Its easy to get carried away and wind up getting hurt/hurting someone.</p>
<p>But if both people in the relationship have a firm grasp on reality and selfcontrol, you can keep it simple - and as cowgirlatheart described, the relationship can turn into something that'll really benefit you both - whether it be having fun on weekends, study groups, stress-relievers, or just someone to talk to - with sex or without sex , doesnt matter.</p>
<p>people just make too big a deal about it and end up ruining things.
A girlfriend should be seen as a girl-friend, (or boy-friend) with benefits =P</p>
<p>If you chose to be with someone who cares about their schoolwork as much as you do, then I'm sure you'll be able to manage your time to include time together and school. Relationships are for fun, so long as you keep seeing it that way until you're ready for something more.</p>
<p>As for long distance .... yah...i think many of us are too young to be able to pull one off - and even most adults wind up cheating anyway. For those of you in one or planning to get into one, congrats/good luck =) Just be prepared for anything I guess. (I speak from experience) Sorry but Im a cynic when it comes to long distance =P It just doesn't work guys but its sweet that you're willing to try it.</p>
<p>I've been thru several relationships in HS - most were failures but I can definitly say i learned alot. Currently I'm seeing a girl but not really going out - I think i may've finally found a good match but we both understand that it can't really last (senior year -_-) but who knows lol, in anycase she'll make a great long-term friend. </p>
<p>Gluck all</p>
<p>(and as you can probably tell by now - ive given this topic MUCH thought xD)</p>
<p>My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 months now, and I'm his first love so he always is asking me to marry him and he gave me a promise ring that I accepted. I never had anyone that into me and I love that. No matter where I go, I do plan on staying with him. I'm not going to let a few hours break us apart, even though he would love for me to go to school around here, he knows that I'm going to be where I am the most happiest and he wants me to be happy. I've been in long distance relationships before, and I don't let miles or hours get inbetween. So I never really got into a relationship during high school thinking that we wouldn't be together through everything...but I guess that's just me...</p>
<p>I've lived in Japan twice now, first for school, now for business. We've weathered both trips.</p>
<p>In the fall, I'm either moving to London, Boston, or New York for grad school. We'll weather that too.</p>
<p>It's 90% mindset, if you ask me. </p>
<p>courtney,</p>
<p>The promise ring is a good idea. My girlfriend and I did it as well, before my current stint in Japan. However, as someone who's been in an over 6-year relationship, take my advice: Go slower. Not too slow, but slower. I knew a few married couples in college, and it didn't go too well in most cases. It can work, but marriage is a huge time and money commitment that I suggest you put off until at least you're done with your bachelor's.</p>
<p>wow UCLari, uve lived in Japan??
<- eyes flare with envy</p>
<p>I love that place for some reason haha, its just cool.
Id definitely like to visit someday....this summer hopefully but thats impossible lol, my parents wont let me go on such an expensive trip =P</p>
<p>Yah it definitely is 90% mindset.
Well congratulations on your success - and going SLOW is definitely important - not just for long distance but for any.</p>
<p>My two times in Japan have taught me more than anything that most people's image of Japan is 90% fantasy. That doesn't mean it's a bad place, but most people don't really have an accurate image of what it really is like.</p>
<p>It is really nice to have someone who knows you entirely. We can always tell when the other is upset over something. If we need to rant, we're there for each other. My boyfriend is a freshman in college, engineer major, and has two other roommates...he gets very stressed out and sometimes just needs to yell and rant, but he's far too nice to do that to them in person. I act as a soundboard for him so he can get everything off his chest until he can think rationally, then we discuss ways that he can talk to his roommates or manage his time better to get everything done. Me being a senior, I don't have much to stress about - except the whole college decision thing. We keep each other sane. We yell about things to each other. Academically we are total opposites, so I can help him with the things he isn't good at and he helps me with the things I'm not good at. </p>
<p>Long distance relationships do stink, but in a way...it helps. My boyfriend and I escaped a lot of the high school drama that could come up if we went to the same high school. Since I only got to really talk to him on the phone/internet, I was able to know him a lot better because we couldn't be physical at all - we had to talk more, which was really nice. Plus, we both had our own friends and stuff so we didn't end being social or going out with friends. </p>
<p>The physical separation thing? Yeah, totally cool and all for the conversation and stuff, but...</p>
<p>It sucks freakin' hardcore when you're thousands of miles away and your friends all have some source of action and you're sitting there goin', "Yeah, I'll umm... yeah. I'll be kicking the cat for a while. Catch you later."</p>
<p>i'm not gonna lie, the sex is great! but aside from that, I feel that my year long relationship, which will end when I move 900 miles away in August, has made me much more mature and ready for college/life/interaction with girls in the future. The time and effort that my girlfriend and I have 'invested' in our relationship is completely worth it. I'd rather have a 3.8 and a best friend and companion, then a 4.5 meritus extremus and a big empty hole in my life. </p>
<p>and when I said the relationship will end when I leave for college; we'll stop dating. I would put money on us being friends for the rest of our lives, however cheesy that sounds.</p>