<p>Guys should realize that relationships are essentially one big trophy hunt: you want the glory of bagging the partner that everybody else wants to validate your own worth. That's why ugly rich people can have the pick of the litter, while celebrities who are average-looking but have "hot" shows are so lusted after. </p>
<p>From my experience, Asian guys tend to stick to their own race, or more specifically, to their own ethnicity. Due to this lack of exposure and perceived social ineptitude, these Asian guys are isolated in the dating game. Therefore, the Asian girls they chase after pretty much have these guys to themselves. This is perfectly okay for homely girls, but for the hot ones who have ambitions to be popular and to prove they can compete with the Queen Bee (typically a blonde cheerleader type), dating those Asian guys is like a last resort. Get what I'm saying? Supply and demand. As long as Asian guys make themselves the exclusive property of their women, they will never sell like hotcakes.</p>
<p>In high school, if you're an ugly unathletic Asian guy, you're completely screwed. At least if you're white, you can still hang out with the popular people albeit as a tagalong. If you're a handsome Asian guy, you really shouldn't have any problems unless you have some kind of deep psychological problem.</p>
<p>That being said, there is a bias against Asian guys in American media. To all of those who discount the influence of the media, why do you think the first thing totalitarian governments do is seize control of the media? Because it greatly influences the way people think. Anyways, I can count the number of good-looking Asian guys I've seen on TV or the movies on one hand. Don't tell me these producers are searching under every rock to find that Asian version of Colin Farrell (or whoever you think is really good-looking) but alas, they cannot. In truth, the only visible roles available for Asian males is usually as some kind of FOBbish clerk (meaning they're old, have peasant-like fashion and a body frame reflecting a life of malnutrition) or restauranteur. </p>
<p>Look at "Romeo Must Die". They cast one of the hottest girls in the world (Aaliyah) opposite Jet Li, a short not-too-attractive FOB who can barely speak English. They're saying this is the best they could do? Jet Li? But of course, the only room Hollywood has for Asians is as a heavily accented kung fu master. When they have to search for a romantic lead, the pool basically consists of Jet Li and Jackie Chan (and the latter makes the former look like Casanova).</p>
<p>And look at all the popular "foreign" films about cultural exchange, such as "Bend It Like Beckham" "The Joy Luck Club" (not really foreign, though about culture clash) or "Bride and Prejudice". I put "foreign" in quotation marks because they're foreign only in that the actors speak in different languages or accents. In essence, they reinforce the Hollywood rule of ethnic women falling for white men, but never ever white women falling for ethnic men. The message in all these popcorn flicks is that for ethnic women to fully integrate themselves into Western society, they must marry white guys.</p>
<p>"Harold and Kumar go to White Castle" was a true rarity in which one of the stars was a relatively good-looking Asian guy who had some personality and did "American" things like get arrested and smoke pot, as opposed to "Asian" things like study calculus all day and speak in a heavy accent. And OMG, he actually got the girl in the end. Could that be a first? But of course, letting the Asian guy get the white girl might've riled up the establishment too much, so they cast a Latina, a very neutral race (not too white, not too black). This is similar to something that Will Smith said about his movie "Hitch", where he was paired off with Eva Mendes, and how a Latina was cast because white male audiences would not want to see a black guy getting with one of "their women".</p>