It’s my second semester as a freshman and I still am fairly unhappy here. I have made some “friends”, but no one I feel like I have a real connection with. I made the decision to go through sorority recruitment this semester because everyone told me it would be a great way to find friends. While I ended up making it to the end, I got a bid from my second choice. I was miserable the whole bid day and didn’t feel like I fit in with the group of girls I was put with, and ended up dropping out after a week. It was awkward enough to drop, and now I’m left feeling even more alone and hopeless about finding my place, especially after everyone told me that rushing would put me where I’m supposed to be. I have been trying out new clubs, and while some feel better than others I still feel like I’m not anywhere close to finding my “people”. I don’t want to transfer, but I’m definitely not happy here and everyday I become less hopeful.
My D also found herself lonely her the first year in college. In high school, she was also a bit of a loner. She was not interested in clubs or sorority life. She found a part-time retail job that gave her an opportunity to meet some new people. She also started volunteering at a dog shelter. She’s now in off campus housing and periodically fosters a dog.
I know not all sorority people are the same, but most of the people I knew that joined fraternities and sororities were not the type of people I wanted to be friends with anyways. If you didn’t fit in with them, you’re not really missing anything. Why don’t you join a few clubs or sports you’re interested in? Friendships don’t happen instantly, but finding a place where you have somewhat like-minded people you can do stuff with always helps.
it seems like you’re looking for social acceptance or something like that instead of just friends. also you seem to have self-doubt and low confidence. Just occupy yourself with positive things; like work on a project, start a sport, hit a club or do some activities that will benefit and improve your skills, personality etc. This will last you forever, while friendships and stuf…not so much. So, use your time to the max, don’t sit free waiting for friends.
You know what, it’s only 4 years not your entire life. Just focus on doing well academically, the rest will work itself out.