<p>I think I will definetly pick F&M, but I dont know if I will like it. Another person who is going there says that there is a lot of partyong there, and I am not a partier at all. I am not a geek either but I don't drink and am uncomfortable in those situtaions. a girl i know that is going there said i would be happier at gettysburg and that she saw that there were "more my kind of people" at gettysburg. I really like F&M but can someone tell me if it is hard to fit in there if you dont drink or party? can u still make friends or do people kind of shun u. i know someone at another college, and shes transferring because she was shunned by all of her friends because she didnt want to smoke or party, and she was kicked out of her sorority. im a little worried about my situation. does anyone think i will be happier at gettysburg, although i heard that they party and drink too. I know every college drinks and partys but at some colleges it is possible to get by without doing them. this girl i talked to said i would'nt be happy at f&m.</p>
<p>I dont know about the current situation but I do know my son, who is not a partier (but not a geek) is going to F and M. So there is at least one other first year student in your situation. At any school, it is what you make of it.</p>
<p>Keep in mind that no matter which school you choose, you will never know if you would have been happier at some other place. The difficulty of making choices in life is that you rarely have exactly the same set of options again. </p>
<p>You are at a fork in the road. You cannot know exactly what the future holds. Both Gettysburg and F&M offer great opportunities, and both have their blemishes, their warts. </p>
<p>Choose with your gut, and don’t look back.</p>
<p>I went to F&M freshman year…prolly one of the best years of my life…no regrets at all. Just go</p>
<p>Keep in mine that the girl you talked to wasn’t even attending F&M before she told you that. You will not be forced to drink here. I actually know quite a few people who are dry pledging and doing just fine with that, and people who are on sports teams who aren’t into drinking but still go to parties every weekend and have a blast just hanging out with friends and meeting new people. College is what you make of it. It doesn’t matter if you don’t drink but it DOES matter if you make other people feel bad for choosing to drink. No one wants to be lectured at by a peer</p>
<p>My sister went there and i saw a lot of partying scenes and goths from her picture, but i don’t know if you would fit in if you don’t like partying. It might be easier to go to a seldomly-party school if you want to make a lot of friends. In my opinion, nobody will force you to drink and it’s not like you can’t find a friend if you don’t party, but it will simply be harder to make many friends.</p>