<p>@Frankur: word!..and, congratulations to your daughter, and all others accepted </p>
<p>(Joy at our household this morning, also! hooray!)</p>
<p>It’s true: William and Mary is a genuinely wonderful school, academically, while functioning on a human, not super-human, scale…for which I’m grateful. It doesn’t suffer from the bombastically annoying gas-bag elitism that, we felt, animates the communication coming from other selective schools. That fake-honorable atmosphere of deflected self-congratulation is, in my opinion, exquisitely grotesque…and not very friendly, either On some of those school tours, you’re meant to understand: your kid is uniquely privileged by just bearing witness to our imposing Disney-goth campus and overly precious traditional rituals…barf. </p>
<p>…way to intimidate 18-year-olds with power architecture and tribal-bonds that have, actually, nothing to do with education…</p>
<p>I think the difference is what we’ve all noted, here: individual students, and their families, matter at W&M. The school doesn’t exist to inflate the egos of the accepted…but, rather, to educate them. I was admitted 30 years ago, as a poor girl from a single-parent household living under the national poverty line, and W&M offered me the opportunity to work for, and pay my own way, to a world class education. I’ll never forget that example of <em>true</em> privilege. </p>
<p>(my mother, even today, does not refer to the school as “William and Mary”…but as “dear old William and Mary”.)</p>
<p>I sincerely want to thank the admissions team for conveying this sense of care and respect, to all applicants, regardless of their academic profile. You’re wonderful!</p>
<p>…and to the applicants who were not accepted this morning: please don’t take this decision as a personal gauge of your worth, as a person or student. I fully expected my girl to get the heave-ho (she’s not a perfect student in any way)…and had rehearsed my comfort-speech in the middle of the night, just in case. The applicant pool is simply far too enriched (…sometimes artificially) with impressive kids and is groaning under the weight of too many qualified people. Many of these kids have been groomed, for literally years, by armies of tutors and super expensive educational consultants to look good on paper, but who may not be possessed of the intellectual honesty, or raw bravery, to speak with their own voice…but hey! they sure can take tests </p>
<p>Those of you feeling sad or disappointed today can take comfort in knowing that the opportunity to express your ideas and curiosity, become a uniquely original person, and do great things, is not tied to a specific school…but is linked, instead, to your desire to get started on your fabulous, fun, and interesting life. Happily, no one knows where that adventure will go…and it’s all just beginning for you. Best of luck to everyone!</p>