<p>I'm a current senior in High School. I am worried about the social scene in college. I have never been to a party and I am really scared. Any advice for a girl who is petrified? </p>
<p>It all depends which college you go to. Some colleges party hard and others like mine don’t. </p>
<p>I’ve been to a college party once and didn’t like it. If you find out you don’t like college parties than don’t do it. Most people use college parties to hook up or just to take a break from work. You can often find active clubs on campus to meet people with common interests. Attend both college and community sponsored events. You’ll meet a diverse group of people and get to have fun!</p>
<p>If you do find out you like parties don’t do anything illegal and make sure you’re always safe. It’s always best to go with a friend you trust. Unfortunately, women aren’t always treated respectfully at college parties but it is possible to have a good time depending on who you surround yourself with. </p>
<p>“Popularity” isn’t a big thing in college as it is in high school. You can say “yes” or “no” and no matter what you pick it has no influence on your popularity. </p>
<p>This might vary by college but I noticed to be a bit more wary of freshmen guys than others. Most seem to have watched way to many college movies and are deeply interested in the hook-up culture while the rest don’t care. If you do decide to take part of hook-up culture just make sure you’re safe and know your boundaries.</p>
<p>I’m writing this with the assumption that you’ll go to at least one party with alcohol in college, and you’ll drink said alcohol, regardless of how far from 21 you are. If you don’t want to go to that sort of party you’ll probably still have plenty of options, especially if you go to events where alcohol is not served. </p>
<p>Be aware that there are various types of college parties. There’s a huge difference between huge fraternity parties, dorm pregames, and smaller kickbacks at houses/ apartments. As an incoming freshman it’s likely that you’ll only know about the first two since few people living in upperclassman, non greek housing bother to inform new students about them (the general reputation is that new students tend to show up in droves at the first mention of alcohol).</p>
<p>At most open frat parties I’ve been to, the only ways for guys to get in is if they already know one of the brothers, or are surrounded by a large group of women. Part of the justification for this isn’t exactly great, so always go with at least one or two friends who can get you out of any situation. If you don’t feel comfortable at any house, then get your friends and leave. There will be other parties, ones that will not make you feel that way. If a guy is trying to get with you, please don’t feel obligated to reciprocate. Just because they’re having a party doesn’t mean you’re therefore at the brother’s beck and call.</p>
<p>As far as drinking goes, one of the first rules of frat parties is that you should avoid the “juice”, “punch”, or whatever they’'re calling various fruity concoction at all cost. First you don’t know if any of them slipped anything in it, and second, you have no idea about the alcohol content. It could be the sweetest thing in the world, barely taste like alcohol at all, but still be loaded with hard liquor. Many people, particularly new drinkers, tend to think that if they can’t taste the alcohol, then they can drink as many cups of jungle juice (the slang term for the drink) as they want. These people tend to be the ones with their heads in the toilet, or worse, later in the night.</p>
<p>The other types of alcoholic drinks commonly available at open frat parties are shots of hard liquor and terrible beer. If you plan on drinking hard liquor, insist that you see the shot being poured. If you want a beer only accept one that is either unopened or that you see being opened. Second, monitor the amount of alcohol you’ve consumed in a night. Ideally you’ll want to drink either a standard sized beer or shot (12oz and 1.5 oz respectively) but often that’s not possible and you’ll either get more or less depending on the size of the cup frats use. If it’s more than 1.5 oz, say 2 oz remember that you’re drinking 1/3rd more alcohol than normal so if you took 3 shots of vodka out of a 2 oz container filled to the brim, you’re actually consuming 4 “drinks”. Don’t be pressured to drink everything at once. Space them out, and ideally drink something nonalcoholic between every drink. Not only will this help keep you from over drinking, but I believe it also prevents hangovers which are primarily due to dehydration (I could well be mistaken though). [Here[/url</a>] [url=<a href=“http://www.niaaa.nih.gov/sites/default/files/just_drinks_for_web.jpg]are[/url”>http://www.niaaa.nih.gov/sites/default/files/just_drinks_for_web.jpg]are[/url</a>] [url=<a href=“College Drinking, Changing the Culture”>Interactive Body Text]some[/url</a>] [url=<a href=“http://www.brad21.org/effects_at_specific_bac.html]links[/url”>http://www.brad21.org/effects_at_specific_bac.html]links[/url</a>] where you can find more information about alcohol and its effects on the body, both in general and at specific BACs (blood alcohol content).</p>
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<p>Dorm pregames, or parties depending on the school you go to, are generally a gathering of a small group of students who imbibe alcohol, usually with the intention of later going out, either to a party or other type of event. Typically these are more intimate since most people drinking in the dorms know each other. The general rules about watching your drinks, monitoring what and how much you drink, etc still hold. Feel free to decline playing drinking games or any drinks that might be offered. </p>
<p>One last tip, many universities have a good Samaritan policy. This means that if a student exhibits the [url=<a href=“http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alcohol-poisoning/basics/symptoms/con-20029020]signs”>http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alcohol-poisoning/basics/symptoms/con-20029020]signs</a> of alcohol poisoning](<a href=“http://www2.potsdam.edu/alcohol/HealthIssues/1100827422.html#.VJLpRiujOG4]Here[/url”>http://www2.potsdam.edu/alcohol/HealthIssues/1100827422.html#.VJLpRiujOG4), and another student calls 911, those at the party cannot get in trouble, regardless of how many underage drinkers there are. Even if your university lacks such a policy and you suspect alcohol poisoning, call for immediate medical attention anyway. A strike on your record is far less important than potentially saving someone’s life. </p>
<p>Thank You!</p>
<p>Thank you very much!</p>
If you come to Penn, I’ll show you around 
Just kidding. Partying is prevalent but you can definitely have a great college experience without ever going to any. I’m sure you will find your group.
But honestly, the biggest difference is that in college, you can pretty much do whatever you want.
Well, it won’t be difficult. I know a tons of people who didn’t go to party before coming to college and now they are partying like hell 
(I am not exception) however, be aware of too much partying since you need to be aware of the time management issue