OMG you sound like my new best friend. I am a current student in the honors college and an engineer, not interested in Greek life, though the coed engineering fraternity appeals to me, I don’t drink, and I am socially awkward.
If you are in honors college, you will definitely meet some great people. I suggest going to all the honors college events and introducing yourself to random people and find someone you really connect with. Also, snowcones. Get in the snowcone line at least twice, I met some pretty interesting people in that line. So far, most of the people I have met in the honors college have been engineers and most of the engineers I have met have been in the honors college. Both are lovely groups of people, you just weed out the ones who say things like “I was so wasted when …”
Get on Board Day (GOBD) would help you alot. Bascially all these clubs line up tables down the street and you visit each one, talking, writing your name, (fake) number, and email (not fake bc you can always unsubscribe) on lots of little cards and getting free tshirts, pens, cups, koozies(which are worth nothing on ebay so you should just throw them away) and candy while going down each table. I remember that there were ethnic clubs. I can’t remember if there was one for people of middle eastern background but I know there was an Indian one that handed out these delicious pastry type things. I can’t even remember who I talked to but I got alot of emails, and some texts I didn’t want. I sifted through the emails and found some things I liked and went to the next meetings, the rest I unsubscribed from. At club meetings, that is where you go up to people, start a conversation with them, and hope they want to be your friend.
One more thing. I have noticed this in STEM students, but we all seem to see the world through the same black and white lens. For us, there really is not gray. If you like math and I like math, then we are the same. We don’t tend to look at race. You are either a human or a pig or a dog or a horse. Also, as long as you are as nerdy as us, you will fit in. Just talk about what you’re passionate about and you’ll find that others are passionate about the same thing.
This applies for any other school you might go to. They all have their own version of GOBD I’m sure and as long as there is a good percentage of STEM students at that school, you will be able to find people who really do want to be your friend. (I just recommend they don’t be your roommates–you’ll get angry at them or vice versa).
Hope this helps. Feel free to ask me any other questions you have about life on campus as an engineer