<p>guys are dense. your best bet is to establish casual physical (the more intimate the better) contact during conversation. most guys will get it if you’re into him, and if you’re not into him and you do that often enough, the guy will take it as you’re into him.</p>
<p>Thanks a bunch, people!
Hey crowslayer91, do you have any examples of “casual physical contact”?</p>
<p>And to some of you who have raised the concern, thank goodness I know he isn’t gay. He was talking once about an ex-girlfriend of his, so at least I know that much.</p>
<p>The problem with going to Berkeley is that the guys here either they never learned how to show a girl he’s interested or they just act too fast/a bunch of other things. I hate it.</p>
<p>But to answer ur question, act casual with him and ask to get yogurtland after class or something. i guess?</p>
<p>straight up ask him. sounds like he is not going to make the first move. so just ask to grab a bite whilst yall continue the conversation or ask to grab a bite sometime when yall are free. boom shakalakalaka</p>
<p>He would have asked you out already if he felt physically attracted to you. It seems he doesnt want to take things beyond just a casual friendship.
You can make the first move and ask him. I mean
unless you ask him directly, theres no way to know for sure whats going on.</p>
<p>As for me if some ugly girl (with chopstick body) acts interested in me and tells me that Im smart and interesting I usually smile and talk and then I just pull back… hoping that she gets the answer.</p>
<p>I can’t believe I didn’t think of this before…get him drunk. Its like truth serum. Or something like that.</p>
<p>I second getting him drunk.</p>
<p>Seriously, guys are pretty dense. My boyfriend and I were floormates freshmen year and I was like 99% sure we were going to get together since October. Nothing actually happened till January and drinking definitely helped lol. Don’t interpret this as thinking he doesn’t like you. You don’t have to “ask him out”, but you should invite him to something, like maybe a party that you’re going to? Or just say you’re really hungry after class or something. Either way DO SOMETHING!</p>
<p>Just ask him out.</p>
<p>do what Alan did in the Hangover</p>
<p>Yeah seriously . . . just straight up ask him out. </p>
<p>He’ll probably respect you more if you’re outspoken and assertive anyways . . . .</p>
<p>Speaking as a guy, I have two scenarios from my life:</p>
<p>There was a girl I liked, and I never made any kind of move. That’s been one of my biggest regrets for a while now, and I can’t do anything about it until she breaks up with her boyfriend. If that never happens, I may have missed the best opportunity I ever had.</p>
<p>OTOH, there was a girl that was nice, and attractive, that I never really noticed. I began to see in retrospect that she had been making hints (both subtle and not so much) for months that I never picked up on, and she eventually gave up and found someone else.</p>
<p>Point 1: Don’t miss an opportunity.
Point 2: Guys are dense.</p>
<p>Conclusion: If he’s too shy to make a move, and you really do like him, the least you can do is say so. Maybe not, “Hey, (name), do you want to go out?”, but at least give him some thing he can recognize as attraction (some of the other recommendations are great in that respect), and if he doesn’t like you, that’s his loss.</p>
<p>One perspective I would like to put out there…not sure if young people these days think along this line anymore…As a girl, I always thought that I should keep silent if I like a guy. I thought that if he likes me, he would not hesitate to tell me one day. I only realize now that guys don’t get mixed signals and that he probably feared of being embarrassed.
Back in my undergrad, I just didn’t want to tell him of my feelings for him because if he didn’t like me, then he would’ve been very disturbed by me indeed. So for his sake, I restrained myself. Oh well, I still like him, but he’s hundreds of miles away now and I’ll probably never see him again. But time heals all wounds. @ SadBear, best wishes to you!</p>
<p>^ So true .___. happens too many times >.< Yet I never do anything about it…</p>