Hi, I know there are plenty of these posts but I don’t know what to do. I’m over 2/3 done with my first semester of school and academically, I’m doing great. I just feel like I haven’t been able to find my “niche” yet. I never had trouble making friends in high school, but now that I’m in college I feel like I suddenly became so much more socially awkward. I have a few acquaintances I talk to and go out with sometimes, but it mostly feels so forced to me. I feel like I’m always saying or doing the wrong thing to make friends.
I know the typical advice is to “Join clubs! Eat with other people! Get a job! Keep your door open!” but it just doesn’t seem to lead to anything. I’m a music major, so I often have to spend the evenings and nights attending concerts, but I’ve still tried joining a few clubs; I just don’t seem to click with anybody even if we share some common interests. My floor isn’t particularly close (I chose to room with an acquaintance from a summer camp, but she ended up dropping out and I now live alone), and while I have an on-campus job, I work alone and don’t meet people. I feel like I’m intruding when I sit with other groups to eat, and I just sort of sit there and watch the conversation go by.
I just feel really stuck. I’ve been going to the counselling center on campus, but my appointments are every 2-3 weeks and I don’t feel like I’m making any progress or feeling much different. If I’m really confident and happy one week, I quickly return back to feeling down and upset the following week. The biggest shock in coming to college is that nobody really cares about me and what I do with my life. I just feel very insignificant. I don’t really know if I’m looking for advice or sympathy, I just feel like I’ve exhausted all my options. I’d consider transferring, but I feel like that would just make my social situation worse.