<p>My parents keep telling me to join clubs to meet friends.</p>
<p>My school does offer a lot of clubs for ppl of all kinds of interests but i'm wondering how I would fare if I go alone (I'm new to a school and have no friends).</p>
<p>Has anybody actually showed up at a club alone and felt comfortably integrated with others at the club?</p>
<p>Do you think it's easier in the beginning, middle or end of the semester?</p>
<p>What was your story?</p>
<p>Of course you can meet people at school clubs and other directed activities. Just going there and sitting like a bump on a log isn’t likely to get you closer to others but working on activities with folks, talking to them and slowly getting to know them is giving you some more opportunities to make friends. It may not feel comfortable at first, that’s normal. And it will generally take time, may not happen. It’s like a lottery, you gotta play to win, and you don’t always win. But the chances are good that you will get to know some people better. I do encourage this.</p>
<p>well
most people i know go to clubs alone so they can meet people with the same interests, since those interests aren’t always apparent at the first impression, or people with such interests are rare.</p>
<p>we all come into this world not knowing anyone. solitude is a natural human condition. there’s no reason to be afraid of it like you’re the only person who’s ever not had any friends.</p>
<p>Almost all my current friends came from being active in a club. Being active is key, at least with my club. You aren’t going to easily make friends by just showing up and listening to the guest, you have to go on trips and go to the events. </p>
<p>You can totally show up alone then integrate in. I showed up alone, joined a few things, talked to people and now I’m on the executive board for the club.</p>
<p>I think it is easier to start in the early part of the semester (and fall semester is better than spring). Club sizes are bigger and there are more new people at that part of the year. You can totally still make friends and such at any point in the year but you are less likely to be surrounded by new people.</p>
<p>Most people tend to give the generic advice of “just join some clubs!” to people who are having a hard time meeting people in college. On the one hand, it’s not as easy as it sounds. Just showing up to a club doesn’t mean that anyone will even really remember you, let alone become your friend. Sometimes it’s because the group is already made up of a close group of friends, or because it’s too big for people to really get to know each other, or because the club itself isn’t conducive to getting to know each other.</p>
<p>On the other hand, depending on the club, it can be an extremely easy way to make friends. If it’s a group that’s very passionate and goes on trips and stuff, you’re definitely going to get to know each other because you’ll be spending a lot of time together and you’re all interested in the same hobby. Small/intimate groups are good for this, too. I’m in a book club that gets under ten people a week and because we’re sitting in a small circle, everyone gets to talk and it’s totally normal to say hi when we pass each other on campus or be like “oh hey I know you from book club.”</p>
<p>Joining e-board or a committee really helps, just being a member isn’t good enough sometimes to have your presence make an impact. Good luck!</p>
<p>I can say that you do make friends at clubs when going alone. For my club the very first meeting I went to this semester I got to know two people. The one is in my physics course so if I see him at tutoring I know I can talk to him. In fact he has introduced me to even more classmates at tutoring. The other person is a “super” senior (what they called themselves) but was very friendly and even asked me if I would be coming back. I plan on going back just because everyone was very friendly.</p>
<p>All my friends that aren’t my roommate came from my university’s art club. I went alone that meeting in the middle of October. It was pretty awkward the first few meetings because everybody was so close with one another. However, I got out there and talked with people, went out to eat with them after club meetings, and months later I can safely say they are a close group of friends. New people keep joining, and they quickly get included into the fold.</p>
<p>The key thing is that the club meets every week and go out afterward. People post on the Facebook page about getting together to watch a movie, go dancing, or something. It’s always so active and lively. I’m hoping to find another close-knit club like this one and meet even more people. Remember: you have to be active, always go, and talk with people a lot. You can’t go and just sit in your own little bubble.</p>
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<p>Of course you can! I’ve made a lot of friends through the clubs I’m in. It’s important to realize that almost everyone is coming to college without really knowing anyone there, or just knowing a few people from high school that ended up going to the same college. Everyone wants to meet new people and make new friends as part of their college experience. Joining clubs and being active in them is a great way to make friends. As others have said though, going there and just sitting around isn’t going to get you too far…being proactive and taking the initiative to start conversations can go a long way.</p>
<p>The thing is, you can’t just “show up” and expect to make instant friends. You need to volunteer to help out at the bake sale next week, or write an article for the school paper, or whatever.</p>
<p>you need to try hard not to try hard meet people in clubs</p>
<p>I might be the exception to the rule, but I made friends the very first day I went to my video game association club. I went alone (being a female in a room FULL of guys definitely helped) and within the hour I befriended a bunch of people. Some of them even invited me to a house party a few meetings in. So DEFINITELY join clubs if you want to meet people.</p>
<p>female in a group of males=success</p>