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<p>I took four years of French in high school, and according to my friend, my last name is French. But I’m (at least) a fourth generation Californian on both sides of my family haha.</p>
<p>ahh well Je Suis means “I am.” In Bangladesh, I think girls wtill get married at 13. That seems like the age biology expects us to start having normon rockwell-like kids.</p>
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yeah, i’m not seeing what the OP is. as far as i’ve seen, people are getting married later.</p>
<p>my situation is kinda unique. i was in a serious relationship from 2005-2009, but i really learned how to socialize/talk to girls/play the game once i broke up with that girl and went to college… it was eye opening and i never really realized how in demand i was. i was kind of a slut. sorta still am. but at one point i really thought i was going to marry that girl.
then in the summer of last year i went to europe and met a girl (well a couple, but only one stuck). we’ve had an open long distance relationship ever since and i lived with her for a few weeks this past summer. now i’m back in the states, taken but not, and she’s starting college, but we’re handling it. i really think i do better in a serious relationship than otherwise, and honestly, this situation is pretty awesome. except i wish she was here and all, but what can you do.
if we had more things figured out like our education/careers/location then i wouldn’t be too opposed to the thought of getting married, but then again if we had stuff like that figured out i wouldn’t be 20, hahah. all in all it’s good. not even sure where i was going with this post.</p>
<p>Most of the people I’ve kept in contact with from high school are either single/dating/just starting to get married (class of 03, so 25-26 year olds). But at least browsing Facebook, there are many who had kids right after/not long after high school. There’s a lot of stereotypical demographic divide between the two groups (smart vs. less so, more educated vs. less educated, income levels, etc) and it makes me sad.</p>
<p>For the most part, my friends aren’t getting married and engaged. They’re just having children with their live-in boyfriend or whatever.<br>
I don’t feel like I’m ready to get married or even be in a particularly serious relationship right now. I’m still in the “me first” mindset. What’s most important to me right now is my education and my future career.</p>
<p>The last thing on any of my kids minds is marraige. My sons are busy with jobs and building careers. I hope by the time they reach some mature age they will meet the right person but I don’t see them even close to the marraige commitment.</p>
<p>I think a lot less young people are getting married these days, especially compared to our parents generation. However, I agree that it seems like people are getting married younger, but that’s just because now all the people getting married are actually our age!</p>
<p>I’ve always thought it was something about my area that promoted young marriage. I’m 26 and in a severe minority around here by being single without kids. I can go through my Facebook friends and maybe find about 5 that aren’t married, divorced, or single parents. Actually most people I graduated high school with are already divorced and have kids entering elementary school. It’s strange to me, because I could not imagine having a family and trying to balance my life. I play a major balancing act as it is with work and school and bills and two dogs. Even though I’ll be over 30 when I finally finish pharmacy school, I don’t plan to get married until I’ve graduated and established a career. I don’t think it would be fair to another person to ‘commit’ myself to them when my time is committed to so many other things. I’d rather settle in my independence first and get comfortable with life by myself, THEN find someone that compliments that and meshes with the way that I am when I’m ‘done’ developing myself. It’d be kinda unfair to marry someone now and just expect them to grow in the same direction as me, when I’m not even sure of which way I’m going to grow.</p>
<p>My parents had only been dating for a few months when they got married.</p>
<p>When they became engaged, they hadn’t even kissed yet.</p>
<p>They’re coming up on their 20th anniversary. When you know, you just know.</p>
<p>I, too, have found the opposite to be true. My parents were almost 30 when they settled down.
For me, it’s not high on my list of things to do.</p>
<p>Although, I keep having this weird dream where I wind up in the Amsterdam RL district and marry a prostitute. Then we move back to the USA and have kids with names like Hans, Quentin and Klaus. Lol</p>
<p>I think I gotta lay off the chamomile tea before bed.</p>
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That’s honestly dumb luck. There are plenty of people who date for years and “know” they are supposed to be together, yet ultimately end up divorced. My parents dated from senior year of high school until after they received their degrees, at which time they got married; they were married for 24 years before they divorced. Romanticize it all you want, but no one ever “knows.”</p>
<p>To answer the main question I haven’t noticed anyone getting married. I graduated in 2010 and I don’t know and haven’t heard of anyone that’s gotten married. I do have a friend that got engaged last year, but they broke up. </p>
<p>I have another friend who was THINKING about asking a girl to marry him. In this situation though IDK if he was actually planning on doing it. They’d been together for 2 years and were in love (Or so he says anyways) but she’s a few years younger than him so I doubt he was planning on asking her at that time. She ended up breaking up with him though last year.</p>
<p>I have another friend who’s in the army and planning on marrying her boyfriend (Also in the army) before she’s shipped out. <-i’d say that’s obviously a unique situation.</p>
<p>I’m in college and I could see myself getting married like right after I graduate. One of my teacher always says that you’ll meet your future husband/wife in college and I could see that happening. However, whether I knew or not that she was the one I wouldn’t ask her to marry me unless we’d 1)Been dating for a few years and 2)Lived together for a year.</p>
<p>I don’t see what’s wrong with being engaged or married at 18-22. My grandmother married when she was 18, and my eldest aunt married when she was 18-19.</p>
<p>Why would you wanna get married so early? It makes no sense at all.</p>
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<li><p>I barely know myself right now, let alone another person, and I’m pretty sure its the same for most people this age. Take some time to understand yourself and your personality before trying to look for someone. It will make it easier to know when you really click with someone. </p></li>
<li><p>People are changing all the time at this age (18-22). I know for a fact that I’ve changed over the last 2 years, and I’m pretty sure most other people have as well. If you get married this early, the person you fall in love with right now might be a completely different person (and one you don’t really like that well) in a couple years. </p></li>
<li><p>As far as having kids, its just a bad idea to have a kid very early (before 25). When you’re in college, you have HARDLY ANY MONEY to properly take care of the kid. And even after you’ve graduated from college, wait until you get a good, stable job, pay off some of your student loan debt, enjoy some time with just your spouse, and then think about having kids.</p></li>
<li><p>Some people marry someone because marrying their girlfriend or boyfriend “just seemed right”, and thats ridiculous. There’s many things that have “seemed right” to me, and let me tell you…it definitely didn’t turn out to be the case. </p></li>
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<p>Even though I’m not married and I’m only 19, this still seems like common sense. On a side note, I went to college on the other side of the country, and I have noticed a lot of people in my hometown getting married (they’re in college) but nobody over here in my college town getting married. Its kind of strange.</p>
<p>^ Honestly, you can’t compare your experience to anyone else. </p>
<p>As hard as it is to realize, some people just mature faster and “know themselves” quicker than others. Some people get married young and it works. Some people get married when they’re very “mature” and it doesn’t work. If you marry the right person, you can grow together rather than apart. But really, no matter what stage of your life you’re at, it’s almost a crapshoot to find that one that you will grow together with- rather than apart. Why? Because people change all the time, no matter what their age. While my parents married after only a few months of knowing each other and it worked very well, my grandmother has married 4 or 5 times (as old as her early 60s) and never once has it worked out. Different strokes for different folks. </p>
<p>I agree with not having kids young, for the most part.</p>