Do you mind sharing whether it’s your brother or sister? No need to be so secretive about it lol
Also living together wouldn’t make sense with the way most colleges do things…Freshman are usually in Freshman dorms…sophomores are also often in dorms where in junior/senior year you might be in an apartment.
Also, campus housing won’t put you in the same dorm room unless you both agree…are your parents going to cut off funding because you refuse?
Just suggest to your sister that she won’t be able to make a lot of friends in her class if she lives with you and your friends and let her do the work of convincing your parents? I’m sure she realizes your people are not necessarily her people. Promising your parents that you’ll look out for her will probably be enough for them. Your housing will also probably be set by the time she gets hers.
@LBad96 - OP used “her” in post #17. “…and projects to study for her classes…” Not that it changes anything.
@deldo123 I’m sure you’re seeing that it wouldn’t be fair to actively prevent your sibling from coming to your school if it’s the right one for her (him?) but I totally get not wanting it and definitely you two shouldn’t live together. You should have your own life.
Having kids at the same school is very nice from a parental perspective – you only have to deal with one administration, one financial aid office, one move-in day, one parents weekend, etc. It’s MUCH easier on parents. Is it easier on the kids? It depends. You’re supposed to say “yes, I loved knowing my sibling was there and I never saw her unless I wanted to” but sometimes the reality is that they’re glomming onto the first thing you’ve had entirely to yourself and if they want to be an intrusive part of your life they will be. Especially if your parents are encouraging it.
If you can, put your foot down about your sibling not living with you, at the very least. Emphasize that you have your own life and will not be able to include sibling in your friend groups, clubs, etc. You can approach it from the perspective that it’s best for sibling to have her own, independent experience, but if push comes to shove, stand up for yourself.
I know many people will not agree with me, and that’s okay. It’s my opinion.
I agree with the majority sentiment. I don’t think you can stop your sibling from attending your college, but I would focus the discussion with your parents on why you do not want to live with her/him. Take the argument not only from your perspective (ex. you have an established life there, you benefit from a single room etc.), but also from why it would be bad for your sibling (he/she needs to find frehsman friends, set his/her own path or else he/she will likely flounder after your graduate).