Our son has always been happiest when he’s in a relationship, and he has been dating his current GF for a year and a half now. Though we’ve only met her over FaceTime, she is very easy to talk to, and they appear to be quite compatible. However, he told us early on that he doesn’t think she’s “the one.” I thought that was an odd comment and that he was implying a breakup. That was a year ago, so I’m not sure what he’s thinking now. We will meet her when we finally visit him in August after he returns from a short deployment. We are so looking forward to it.
I just want our son to be happy, and I know I will be thrilled whenever he tells us he’s found the love of his life and wants to marry her. My MIL never accepted that her oldest had found a replacement for her (in her mind anyway) and we have, at best, a cordial but cool relationship. I’ve always told our son that I will love his future wife simply because she’s shown excellent taste in choosing and loving him. I don’t need to know anything more about her.
But, like @conmama, I feel pangs at passages no matter how positive they are. Marriage will be one of those milestones marking another notch on my child’s adult belt. I know he’s a man with a life of his own, but that man is still baby, toddler, child, and teenager in my heart’s vault. Is anyone hearing strains of “Sunrise, sunset…?”
ETA: Ha! @compmom–we were posting the same nostalgic perspective. I also think of “Watching Scotty Grow.” 