Is Covid going to cancel the kids’ ceremony this year, too? Harumph.
I hope Covid doesn’t shut down my D’s wedding in late Oct. I think she would have a breakdown. They are insisting on planning and paying for it. Our extended family is vaccinated except for one aunt and cousin. I’m not sure about grooms extended family. Ceremony is outside and the reception has a retractable roof and can hold double the number of the guests they have invited.
I’m invited to a bridal shower in a few weeks for the future DIL of a good friend. Shower is at a restaurant in Los Angeles. I’m assuming if it’s inside we will be required to mask unless eating. I’m hoping it’s outside but I doubt it since it’s in a hot section of the city.
@Nrdsb4 we started ballroom dance lessons about six months before DDs wedding…so that DH would look terrific doing his father daughter dance. That was three years ago and we are still taking and enjoying the lessons. Highly recommend!
We had the bride/groom, and father/daughter dance. The groom did dance with his mom but it was not a spotlight dance…her choice.
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Aww, I love that. Yeah, I think it would be a good idea as DH has 2 left feet and I’m not really any better. It would be a fun thing to do together to get us out of our typical routine and it’s never a bad idea to learn a new skill.
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I danced with my son to a song I sang him at night when he was hospitalized (nobody knew why this particular sng but DH,S1 and DiL) , and we were very unskilled but it was nice. I was nervous, but someone on this thread said every parent needs to do a dance because it is likely the only moment alone you will have to talk – and they were so right!!! The bride did not dance with her single mom, and I had offered to not dance either lest we irritate MOB, but my son insisted. We did have time for people to line up to dance with them (called a dollar dance in these parts) but specifically said no money (you collect it for the couple, or often, a charity they’ve chosen). My mother in law really wanted to dance with my son, and so did other people, it was fun to watch.
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Son just mentioned yesterday when we talked to him that we need to work on a mother/son dance since they just booked a band for the reception. I’m a bad dancer so this will be interesting!
@greenbutton that is beautiful.
I haven’t heard if my D is planning any family dances.
We have an invitation to a wedding in early Oct. the online RSVP says that the venue is requiring guests be vaccinated or test 72 hours prior. Also unvaccinated need to wear masks.
Any suggestions for votive candles?
I said that! Maybe others did, but that is definitely what I experienced! Do the mother/son dance! You’ll be glad you did!
I said this before, but I was relieved when my son said they weren’t doing any special dances. No wedding cake, no cake in the face, a buffet, but a photo booth and several wonderful desserts.
Votive candles. I think we bought 96(?) on Amazon. Pay attention to the burn time and check them upon arrival for any breakage.
Suggestions for timing?
Summer wedding next year. 2PM or 6PM church service.
If 2PM, shall we start the cocktail hour at 4:30 or 5:00? We’ll commit to 5 hours of open bar.
D and I are tossing ideas around. I don’t like a long span of time between the service (if at 2PM) and the reception. Church and reception & accommodations hotel are less than 10 minutes apart on foot.
Does anyone have fun ideas between leaving church at 3PM and starting a reception. I thought about an ice cream truck — but wonder if that would be too messy.
Or a separate room at the hotel (the library) with water, iced tea, and snacks like pretzels.
Toss your ideas to us!
I’ve heard/read of a scavenger hunt between ceremony & reception, signature cocktails and some appetizers while everyone waits, photo booth. Whatever is done, please have bottles of water available, especially for wedding party and elder relatives — don’t want any fainting or dehydration.
D1 had the ceremony at 3:30. We had a champagne/beer reception at the ceremony site while wedding pictures were taken. The official reception (cocktail & dinner) at another site started at 6pm.
I don’t know if it was intentional or not, but it was a very good time for photos (not too bright and not to dark).
If you have the ceremony at 6pm and do not want to take wedding pictures before the ceremony then you may not have the best light for pictures.
At the same time, if you were to have the ceremony at 2 and reception at 6 then there is a big gap of time for the guests.
I was feeling so sad for my daughter’s friend whose two other bridesmaids dropped out of the wedding party with only a month to go. I wanted a special gift and none of the things she registered for (that we could afford) were special. A snow shovel? Sheets?
They met as roommates on the Disney College program. The Disney wedding ornament is nice, but it is $70 with no discount at Macy’s. But I found it for $17 at BB&B, and could use the 20% off coupon. Now I’m happy!
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I’d do this, with perhaps more substantial food than pretzels if the eating at the reception isn’t going to start until after 6. You figure if the wedding is at 2 people won’t have eaten after 12 or 12:30. If the wedding party isn’t going to be there (pictures? trying to refresh before the night activities?), is there someone who could organize activities like games, a wedding video, old pictures? If there is going to be dancing at the wedding, some might like a dance lesson for line dances or something they could show off. I guess it would depend on the age of the room. Younger cousins might be very good at putting together a dance, crafts of the bride and groom,
If you have a lot of relatives from out of town, they might appreciate more time to socialize (without the loud music of the reception). I went to a morning wedding with the reception at about 7 pm. We (the sorority sisters of the bride) went out to lunch and then just sat around all afternoon gabbing and catching up. It was really really cold out our we could have done something. I’d suggest a tour of your city (if interesting) but it might be too hot.
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Are you talking about the actual candles? We got tea lights that burned for 6 hours at Michael’s.
I’m back with an update. I flew in to join D for visits to two venues. We’ve selected the downtown location that’s an 8 minute walk to the church.
Both venues are hotels.
Following the 2PM ceremony we will have a private space with light refreshments, 3:30-5:00. The cocktail hour will begin upstairs at 5:00, followed by dinner at 6:00. We will also have an after party with pizza at the same space we will use in the afternoon. The private room is adjacent to the bar and restaurant so people will have options. We’re covering 5 hours of open bar at the reception.
The mid-afternoon and after-party events both count toward our event minimum.
The other hotel, across the river, was also very nice. That hotel had a lower minimum and additional rooms that we could rent AND bring in our own food (for an after party). If we’d chosen that hotel, I would have wanted the top suite — 3BR, 3.5 ba with a balcony! (DH gulped hard at $1500 per night!)
The deposits for the church and hotel will both be paid next week. At the beginning of October, I’ll make another trip for dress shopping.
Here we go!
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I was just watching The Talk and John Corbett said he and Bo Derek got married around Christmas after 20 years together(they are both now 60+) . It had not been announced before and it was very sweet. He said they wanted something good to be associated with 2020. His friend Jerry O’Connell joked that " I knew you kids would make it." And then told him to get ready for a bachelor party!
My son got married in October 2020 in a very small outside ceremony. They also just wanted to be married and did not want to wait since the Covid situation was so unclear. I was a little concerned that some friends and family might not get behind them having a bigger event next year but so far people seem excited. Son also wants a bachelor party, and I ran into one of his friends (who is a groomsman) who brought up how exciting the wedding and bachelor party will be. Son is not a bachelor but he and his friends will still call it a bachelor party and intend to have some fun!
I’m guessing (and hoping) that anyone who thinks another celebration is unnecessary will just decline any invitation.
I still need to work on a dress and mother/son dance but luckily there is time!
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My daughter is in a wedding this weekend. She got her dress for $9.99 (bride picked a color from David’s, girls’ choice of style). It is really cute. Today we shopped for shoes and found a pair at 65% off. Shoes still cost 3x what the dress did.
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@mom60 we’ve changed the bridesmaids’ processional at my niece’s camp wedding to Wildflowers by Tom Petty. Thanks for the suggestion! 8 days to go…
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