@sevmom I love the Elinadress, one of my faves. It is an excellent price and looks more expensive!
My daughter is in a wedding Aug 7. It is a girl she was at her Disney internship with, and 2 others from their dorm were also to be in the wedding. The bride sent out a box a YEAR ago asking them to be in the wedding, a note with all the information about buying a dress (Davidâs bridal, so easy), where they should fly in, that they could stay at her motherâs house, etc. I thought it was very well done with lots of information. She was being very flexible about them attending the rehearsal, etc. knowing that it costs a lot but, really, plenty of notice. My daughter bought her dress ($9.99 on sale!). Daughter is on a vacation for a month but will be back on Aug 1 to fly out Aug 4. The other two cancelled on July 1! Too expensive, they say, and one is getting married next year and everything is soooo expensive. They both have ârealâ jobs and earn okay money while my daughter works at Starbucks and is going back to grad school in the fall.
I feel so bad for the bride. I think she doesnât have a lot of friends or relatives as she asked 3 people who she lived with for 5 months to be in her wedding. Daughter thinks groomâs sister is in the wedding but doesnât know exactly how many are in it, and now they have 2 extra groomsmen.
Weddings. Too much drama.
Boo to the ladies who canât support their friend. Looks like she did everything possible to minimize their expenses. Covid definitely popularized microweddings and âminimonies.â Kudos to your daughter for supporting her roomie.
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Wow . That is terrible. Glad your daughter is not letting the bride down. Hope she enjoys the wedding festivities!
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If those girls felt it was too expensive to attend, the time to back out was when they were asked to be bridesmaids, not a month before the wedding. Terrible etiquette.
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Or six months before, but not one month before the wedding. The bride has been very nice about everything but Iâm sure is very hurt. The two were texting my daughter saying âOMG, Bride wonât even talk to usâ and then yelled at daughter for interfering.
I have a feeling daughter wonât be asked to be a bridesmaid in the wedding of one of them next year. Good.
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One of nieceâs bridesmaids backed out last month. She could barely fit into the dress last year (going to lose weight, yada, yada), now canât even get it on due to additional covid weight. Canât afford another $120 dress, too late to order another anyway. Bride asked a male friend to step in, so working out.
Groomâs parents stepping up after after almost 2 years of âweâre not contributing a dime for anythingâ. They are buying and bringing the food for the rehearsal dinner, plus ordering and bringing the reception dessert. They also purchased the wine for the reception.
They got wind of me gifting the couple all the invitations, stamps, and save the dates, plus all the flowers for the ceremony.
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My step-daughter, almost 30, has been asked to be one of 9 bridesmaids. That seems like a LOT to me, for people who will be 30 when this wedding occurs. PLUS, itâs going to be expensive, and step-d doesnât have the money to be funding stuff like this. Sheâs also been asked to be in another wedding. She just finished grad school, hasnât secured a job, and really canât afford to be saying yes. BUT, theyâre her friends, and she doesnât want to say no.
But that was their choice and they didnât promise anything. I know I wonât be able to contribute when my kids get married. Of course, I wonât be inviting anyone either.
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I had this chat with a young woman. We discussed how it was better to remain friends and simply state that sheâd love to be at the wedding, but could not afford to be a bridesmaid, all the clothes, the $$ for a shower, the weekend away. And the visits for fittings and other events.
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Iâm coming back to this thread, joining again. D2 became engaged on Thursday night. So cute, he proposed at the sports field where she was coaching a summer camp. Here we go ahead! (D1 was married January 2020 before the world fell apart).
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@twoinanddone true, but they could well afford it. Their wedding is small because that is what their budget can handle. Brideâs mother passed away January 2020 and she couldnât contribute anything even if she were still living. Sheâs only met her father twice in her life and hasnât seen him in 20 years.
It certainly is their choice, but hard to watch.
my son and I danced to âwind Beneath My Wingsâ Bette Midler in March 2021.
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Perhaps Iâm the last person in the world to see this, but just saw this last week - a proposal that is so adorable and clever. The guy apparently worked with an animator to edit the film so that the characters (Sleeping Beauty and the Prince) eventually changed look to look like the couple - do watch if you havenât seen it - itâs so sweet!
Sleeping Beauty was apparently the womanâs favorite movie!
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That is so awesome.
Question:
When there is a band at a wedding reception, what are the traditional dances that are usually done solo on the dance floor?
1st dance: bride and groom
2nd: father and bride
3rd: groom and mother
Is that usually it, or do I have it all wrong?
At my Dâs upcoming wedding we are doing just the bride and groom dance and then a combined father/daughter mother/son dance. The band will first introduce father/daughter and then about a third the way through the dance they will introduce the groom and his mom.
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@Nrdsb4 A wedding planner can perhaps provide some guidance. Emily Postâs Etiquette has a number of chapters on weddings. Some things can be the way the bride and groom want to do things. DH and I followed DD/SIL listing on what we were to do and the plan. Announcer just followed their plan. DD/SIL had a 16 piece jazz band which also included a female singer. They worked things out with them. Music was awesome - the food was also terrific too. A great party time. A very happy day.
Thanks-D2 has just hired a wedding planner. Asking her is a good idea.
Iâm not really a dancer, but am looking for what is most often done. Maybe I should just hedge my bets and take some dance lessons!
They did a fun dance at my sons wedding. They started with everyone who was married dancing. And then the DJ announced only those married five years or more, then ten years or more, etcâŠ. In the end you have one couple who has been married the longest. We had two or three couples who were married over 60 years.
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We did this at S & DILâs wedding and I thought it worked well.
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