Yes, that’s what I was hoping was that it was the kind of thing where you could respond to different events - nope, it just said “respond to our wedding day”.
I reached out to my neighbor (MOB) and she said just decline and then there would be a spot where we could write a note to the couple. I did that. I did mention that we’d like to attend the ceremony if possible and MOB thought that would be fine. She said that while it is scheduled to be outside its weather permitting. I’m hoping that H will agree to still attend the ceremony either way (we can mask for the ceremony) or we will just make a game day call based on the weather and know that at least we aren’t taking a spot at a table or a plate. (Although I do hope there will be enough chairs at the ceremony!!!)
My neighbor said she is a little nervous too about the large group reception but of course they hoped “all the Covid worries” would be over by now.
My D’s online RSVP did show different events (ex. rehearsal dinner, after party, brunch) but it did not break the actual wedding out into different components (ex. ceremony, cocktail hour, reception). We only had one couple who did not attend all three parts of the actual wedding so it is probably unusual. Just call - it shouldn’t be a big deal.
Just saw this thread…we were invited to a wedding that took place a couple weeks ago. Wanted to attend the very, but not stay. B&G used Zola, but also sent RSVP cards. I explained on the RSVP, and H talked to the FOG (they are work colleagues) and told him what we wanted to do. Colleague and spouse know about my situation. H told him that of the caterer balked at having us just there for the ceremony we’d just decline, as we didn’t want them spending $$ on us.
It wasn’t a problem, and we were glad to have made those arrangements; almost noone wore masks (100 people, indoors, but high vax rates, no tests required). Cocktail hour was outdoors, but dinner was indoors as well.
If I had my druthers, I would have stayed home. It’s no fun being a shadow lurking on the margins.
OK, so the kids didn’t want a rehearsal or dinner for wedding 2.0, but I am hosting a happy hour at the loft of their favorite brewery. It’s a space that can accommodate 70, but we will be about 45. I can’t decide whether to go all out and decorate or leave it as is. The space has maybe eight tables of four, but lots of the space is taken up with leather couches and chairs and coffee tables. In other words, several seating spaces that certainly wouldn’t need linen or anything like that. Three big windows overlook the brewery operations. Exposed industrial ceilings.
What do you think? Mind you, I am coming almost 1,000 miles by car so I likely would have to haul anything I use there. Also, because of timing, I can only get in there 30 minutes early so it can’t be anything time-intensive.
I agree about no major decorations in an industrial type space. You could look at images online of the space or talk to someone at the venue that coordinates events for ideas. Succulents or bonsai could possibly look nice on a bar, for instance, with or without a nice note to the couple. Maybe ask the couple what they prefer? Hope you have a wonderful time at the second wedding!
Etsy has some fun printables you could download and place on tables. My DiL made up trivia about their life and the wedding (how many times she cried trying to pick invitations, how many envelopes they addressed wrong, etc, it was all in fun). You might see if there’s any sort of favor or table piece to connect the space to the occasion
My neighbor has given me candles she used at her daughter’s wedding. They are about 12-inch glass pillars with white candles inside and rimmed with gold ribbon. Just enough of a something. I like them!
My son was married in a similar venue. He had white roses and greens on the tables and some of the beer barrels. They used a florist. I don’t know if you want to go all out.
Definitely don’t want to go all out but thinking about a little something. I think the candles, and then on the food table three of those little photo holders – one each of them as kids and then one of them together as adults and with family. Not this one but like this idea …
