<p>Don’t believe the hype. I was a top student prior to high school (never got below an A) but went through a horrendous family ordeal that led me to rebel at 13. My grades began slipping during my freshman year, and by sophomore year I got kicked out of all of my honors classes. The second semester of that year was bleak for me…I couldn’t imagine graduating high school and functioning in society, much less college. I can’t remember my cumulate GPA (we got number grades), but I think it was somewhere in the “C” range. I flunked Latin II for the year. </p>
<p>I got my act together shortly before junior year, when a life-affirming experience led me to realize I was only punishing myself and not my family. I was a straight-A student for the remainder of my high school career, and earned my way back into the honors classes. Though I hadn’t taken the PSAT or any SAT-prep classes, I managed a 1300 on the SAT (out of 1600 then) the only time I took it. Though I didn’t attempt the top-tier schools that my honors and AP classmates took for granted, I applied to Rutgers and Lafayette. I was candid about discussing my difficult situation and my reaction to it, and I got into both schools (including Rutgers Engineering…I never thought they’d even take me seriously). I think I graduated with an 81.82 average…that would be about a 3.1 on the 4.0 scale. It didn’t seem to matter, since they saw an upward trend.</p>
<p>The point is this…if you’ve run into difficulties, deal with them. Don’t talk about what “happened to you,” but take responsibility for it. If you went through abuse and emotional trauma (which I did), or reacted to a divorce or difficult situation in a way that maybe others would have handled better (which I did too), don’t play the sympathy card. Even if you just plain succumbed to the social pressures of high school, don’t flog yourself for it or go overboard in being apologetic. Just tell the truth in the most mature way possible…don’t get into graphic details. State what you went through in a few short sentences and then discuss how you moved past it. Emphasize your focus on the future, not the past. ALL of us have experienced pain in life, and ALL of us know that adolescence can be an absolute nightmare, even if we had the best and most supportive parents. Even the most discerning member of an Ivy admissions committee can understand that you encountered pitfalls. All that matters is that you prove to them that you’ve learned from your past experience and have learned to turn the adversities you’ve faced into a strength, not only as a student, but as a person.</p>
<p>I’m currently applying to medical school. I’ve had a great college career, and have learned how to deal with my own greatest weaknesses. I think my own personal tumult has served me well…I’m far more sensitive to the needs of others than most. As the old saying goes, “the harder you fall, the higher you bounce.”</p>
<p>Don’t let message boards like this get you down. There will be people in all walks of life who judge you based on your numbers or achievements…but in the end, the ones who count won’t judge you at all, but will appreciate you for what you can contribute to their college, to their workplace, or to society. </p>
<p>Choose a range of schools, and go to the one that suits you best. Once you get there, anything is possible…trust me!!</p>