<p>My son didn’t love dorming freshman year either - the noise and lack of privacy was difficult to deal with. Sophomore year he moved to suite style dorms which gave more privacy and was much quieter. It takes getting used to, but I think it’s worth learning how to live under different types of circumstances. Go to the library for studying or find quiet spots on campus. Look for ways to help you cope with the situation. Now my son lives in a house off campus and loves it. He doesn’t miss freshman dorming but it was a learning experience that helped him grow. Living home would be the easy way out and wouldn’t really benefit you in the long run.</p>
<p>ahh this is all just so strange to me. This is a topic that if I came across I would advise the person to stuck it out a little longer. I’ve just never felt this way before. I feel depressed with all this. I don’t want to be the ‘■■■■■’ kid who moved out after the third week of class. My friend is constantly on the phone with his family half way across the country talking about how much he misses them and his girlfriend and doesn’t know if it is right for him to be here. He bought a plane ticked to fly back just for next weekend. I know that the situation is a lot worse for him, but god it makes me feel even worse seeing what he is going through.</p>
<p>Make some friends who are less immature and spend some time visiting them in their dorm rooms.
Get some earplugs (and an eyemask if necessary) so you can sleep when you need to.
Give it a little more time and see how you feel.</p>
<p>Talk to RA first, if that doesn’t work then get out of the dorms if possible!</p>
<p>bump.</p>
<p>Anyone have any experiences moving out of dorms half way through the semester, or know anyone that did? Anyone else have any thoughts? I’m not thinking of having a final decision anytime soon obviously, I haven’t talked about this to my RA or even my parents too much. I dunno what I should do. I just feel uncomfortable here. I hope it gets better, that would be nice.</p>
<p>Make friends in other dorms. That’s what I did, and now, I’m mostly just in my dorm to get crap and sleep.</p>
<p>Well it’s not really even the friends thing that bothers me. It’s mostly the whole schedule. I like to have a good nights sleep, which I can’t really get when everyone is awake late and my roommate is running in and out of the room. I really don’t have a HUGE problem with it, I just don’t want it to eventually wear on me too much. I hate having the inconvenience of not being able to get up an hour early in the morning, have a relaxing breakfast, get ready and go. Like I’ve said, I’ve delt with LESS convenience before, but this is just a totally different story. I guess I just have to get used to the lack of privacy. I keep saying to myself that once it gets to the point where I don’t care about other people anymore, things should get better. :P</p>
<p>Any possible way you could get/afford a private room? Sounds like that’s what you need.</p>
<p>I would suggest talking to your RA and expressing your uncertainty about your situation. See if you can get a single. Talking to your roommate does help; talk it over lunch or something and see if you can come up with a compromise. You can try to change some of your habits if your roommate is willing to change some of theirs as well. It does take some time to adopt of this situation and it’s understandable that you won’t be used to it by the first month. Give it some more time and remember, communication is important.</p>
<p>i live right above my dining hall which i guess is good. but every hour, even in the middle of the night, a garbage truck comes by and it’s so LOUD. worst than booming music because it’s booming metal. so… my roomate got earplugs!</p>
<p>I think the biggest thing for me is the social aspect. I’m just hesitant to admit it I guess. I’m not a very social person. I like hanging out and stuff, but certain things just get boring to me after a while. Like everyone in my hall plays volleyball EVERY DAY. I play with them once in a while, but as a non-athletic or sports-oriented person, I just get tired of it really fast. I’ve hung out with kids in other rooms just talking and stuff, and I love that. I love sharing laughs and such. I’ll probably be going on a hike one weekend this month, so hopefully I’ll meet some cool people there. I’m really not interested in what most of the clubs here have to offer, I’m sure I’ll end up getting involved in something though. My biggest issues I guess wth living in the dorms is lack of privacy and “forced-socialization” so-to-speak.</p>
<p>I do almost wish I took a work-study job. Just so I had a place I ‘had’ to go to. A responsibility. I was just afraid if I took a job my first semester in college I could be overwhelmed.</p>
<p>It’s never too late to get a job if you think it’d help you settle.</p>
<p>eh, i dunno. </p>
<p>I just don’t know what I should do if I decide I don’t want to be here. I’m not completely at a point where I can say “this is absolutely horrible”, but I don’t want the stress to wear me to that point either. I really would feel like a loser if I moved out of here. Although we aren’t BEST friends, everyone on this hall knows who I am, and would probably just remember me as “the kid who couldn’t take it in the dorms”. I really only like a couple kids on my hall though, the rest I already can’t stand (that’s pretty bad i guess…).
bah, why do I even think about it. I wish I didn’t have any options at all, that would make things easier! lol</p>
<p>…You could…spend more time at other halls where you like people?</p>
<p>Join ECs where you like people?</p>
<p>Get a job to consume more of your time?</p>
<p>Turn into a sociopath and make everything a game for your own amusement?</p>
<p>Do any of those sound feasible?</p>
<p>The last one sounds pretty fun</p>
<p>ar,
take it from a parent, you are doing fine and what you are feeling is quite normal. My oldest son loved his school and his floormates, but when he came home he would close the door to his room and not come out for days. He found it very wearing to have to have his "social face " on all of the time. It’s exhausting and stressful to be smiling and social all of the time.</p>
<p>Things will ease up in a few weeks. Life quiets down, people get more involved in their own interests, and there is less pressure to do everything as a large group all of the time. People won’t think it’s strange that you don’t play volleyball eveytime because everyone si too busy minding their own schedule to pay attention to yours. Play when you want to, hang in the lounge when you want to. </p>
<p>Do go to a few clubmeetings…things that interest you, or something new that you’ve never been exposed to before, simply because it’s a small group environment and you might meet a couple of simpatico people.</p>
<p>There was a girl I knew my freshman year who had similar issues with the noise and banging around in her dorm room at night and she found the ear plugs and eye mask worked for her.</p>
<p>My daughter’s friend got stuck in a suite with 3 very immature freshmen for the first year of college but the friend mostly hung out with people from a favorite extracurricular, didn’t spend much time in the room.</p>
<p>ahhh now i have to go to some stupid soccer intramurals thing tomorrow with my hall… ***? I’ll go just so I don’t seem like an ass. I do happen to believe that soccer is the worst sport ever though.</p>
<p>i think most people on the boards recommend sticking it out for the “experience” and “preparation for the real world”</p>
<p>I suggest you should do what makes you feel most comfortable, which seems like commuting as you suggested</p>
<p>let me give you my take as a commuter:
The purpose of attending college is getting an education and maturing socially (i hope)</p>
<p>now if your roommates are preventing you from getting adequate sleep and stressing you out, it will affect your studying and learning experience.</p>
<p>it seems like your parents generally wont bother you either, so living at home should give you a tranquil environment to get your studying done.</p>
<p>Now the next problem commuters usually complain about is “not really being part of the social life at school”</p>
<p>so it will be important for you to be active and outgoing to meet people (dont wait for people to call you to meet up and such)
join clubs as other have suggested
still attend events and parties</p>
<p>as long as you dont have driving, you should be fine as a commuter.</p>
<p>Thanks. Well, I’m not in a real rush of course, so I’ll stick it out a while longer, then talk to some advisors here to see what they think if I find I’m still miserable too often.</p>