<p>I'm a mom who came across the "overwhelmed" thread: <a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/high-school-life/547618-who-feels-overwhelmed-everything-going-their-life-right-now.html%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/high-school-life/547618-who-feels-overwhelmed-everything-going-their-life-right-now.html</a></p>
<p>My son will be a junior, so I'm sure he's bound to feel the same way eventually. </p>
<p>Give this parent advice. What's the best way I can help him through it? What do YOU wish your parents would do for you?</p>
<p>Thanks.</p>
<p>Support him through everything. Try not to make him wash the dishes if he has a load of homework from his classes as well as SAT Prep. Understand what he is going through and don’t fuss over the fact that he won’t stay at the dinner table.</p>
<p>I feel like the people who posted in that thread were exaggerating. I’ll be a senior this year, but I’ve never felt the way that they do. That doesn’t mean I don’t have high goals like them, because I do. I just don’t stress out over it. Personally, I’ve never actually met anyone who freaked out like the people on that thread over “everything going on in their life right now” [over the summer!!!].</p>
<p>I don’t feel that overwhelmed, but I’ve always wished my parents would do one small thing, and that is to congratulate me on getting straight A’s, rather than just dismiss it as what’s expected.</p>
<p>^ yeah some acknowledgement is nice, but frankly, I wish my parents would just leave me alone instead of constantly bombard me with questions about the future when I don’t ahve the time to explain every single little detail.
It’s good to have communication between the student and parents, but I feel like this helicopter-parents business is because my parents don’t trust me. If your child has had a good record in the past, just trust that he’s got it under control. As long as he keeps you up to date with his main goals/actions, don’t fret about how he handles the minute details.</p>
<p>This is not to say, don’t offer advice. My parents both went to college in another country, so I know more about applying to college than they do. Share your experiences</p>
<p>But above all, just realize that he’s probably working very hard and don’t push it.</p>
<p>don’t yell at your son!!</p>
<p>my mom yells at me too much and it adds to the stress</p>
<p>INVENIAMVIAM - I admire you and your confidence in yourself. I am sorry if my thread came off as an exaggerated whine. However, its true that I am stressed out and I feel comfortable posting my problems or sharing my “whining” if you will, with CC only because I know many are in the same position as me. </p>
<p>As for the parental advice - I would say just be there for moral support. I wish my parents would encourage me just a little bit to tell me how im doing even if i am not doing my best - after all theres always hope! I just wish my parents would understand, unlike their education-style back in India, we have multiple things going on in our lives BESIDES studying. They simply don’t understand the stress we have to go through…</p>
<p>hardworker - I didn’t mean specifically your OP. Some of the posts that followed were more off the deep end and didn’t seem very realistic to me. Plus, I realize that some people are in different situations than I am in, they go to different types of schools, different parental expectations, etc. So they maybe do get stressed out, I just personally can’t relate to it :] Also, if you truly are stressed out like you’ve posted, then I’m okay with that. But when people are just like “OMGGGGGG MY LIFE IS TERRIBLE I’M GOING TO DIE BC OF SCHOOL OH NOZ” it bothers me lol.</p>
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<p>First, congratulations from me. </p>
<p>Second, thanks for your post. D (gonna-be-freshman) hasn’t had a B since 3rd grade. Yes, we congratulate her, hug her, and take her out to DQ when the report card comes home. But then, a few days later, we tend to joke or tease about it. </p>
<p>“D, Grandpa’s on the phone. He wants to know if you got the same ol’ same ol’ on your report card.” </p>
<p>Or brother will say, “Booorrriiinnnggg report card, [Sis]. When ya gonna liven up your life with a B?”</p>
<p>There’s more, but I can’t think of them right now. I think I’ll try to get us to knock it off. Entering HS will be rough enough. Let’s not pile on insecurities.</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>wow, I can’t believe there are parents on this forum!</p>
<p>we’re everywhere!
we’re everywhere!</p>
<p>ohhh have you heard of the “Monty Hall” problem???</p>
<p>I’m everywhere! :D</p>
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<p>Have you ever had a flat tire that made you late for a final exam?</p>
<p>no=[
i can’t drive</p>
<p>Try not to yell at your D, I know someone already said that. But my mom’s sick alot so she tends to get frustrated when I’m busy and can’t help her, so she yells at me, which just makes me feel awful because I know she would help if she could. Then it makes me all stressed out because I feel like I’m failing her, so then I do the chores she asked and just curl up in my room (usually falling asleep) and I never end up getting my assignments done. Therefore, I end up with a couple of B’s and get very stressed out about everything.</p>
<p>Also, I’m not sure how old your son is, and it may be different for you since I just live with my mom and sister. But my mom will get mad at my sister and then she will go to me and tell me how mad she is at my sister, which stresses me out and makes me overly defensive for my sister. So, try not to tell your D about how annoyed you are at S. Like I said, I just live with my mom and sister though so it may be different for you.</p>