<p>So my grades aren't really bad. Pretty much all A's and the occasional B. What's really bugging me is how my mom is always telling me that I'm never going to get into of my top choice schools (Duke, Yale, Swarthmore) because I'm "such a slacker" and I'm only 5th in my class. </p>
<p>Does anyone else feel like their parents have unrealistic expectations? As it is I already put myself under a lot of pressure and I'm already freaking out about the B that is going to be on my report card. I don't really need my parents telling me that I'm never going to reach my goal of being valedictorian. </p>
<p>So... I need some support here. Any stories of similar woes?</p>
<p>YOUR goal or theirs?
My parents used to be like this, I just told them I was sick of it and wanted to go to school to learn and not make grades, and if that involved me being second or third or even tenth (OH MY ****ING GOD) in my class, I was more than happy to accept that. They pretty much respected that besides asking me to do my homework every now and then.</p>
<p>my moms expecations are just strange. She cares more about the effort i put into it than the grades I get, I often get As in the class and a 2 or 3 in effort, and that earns a punishment lol</p>
<p>Fortunately, I don't have crazy obsessive parents like those of some I know who beat their children or starve them if they don't meet their expectations.</p>
<p>Icooufoo, I think that is more reasonable than expecting A's. All that I would expect of my child would be to put in effort, regardless of the grade, as grades in high school are really a matter of intelligence. While it may seem odd for her to bug you for low effort while you still get A's (which right now is fine), you will see the value later. Many of my college friends have told me that excelling there is determined almost wholly by effort.</p>
<p>Yea i feel like that would be way more reasonable. like my current low grade isn't because of lack of effort, just the occasional test that i got lower than usual on. I feel like it's pointless for parents to obsess over stuff like that.</p>
<p>I totally am on the same page. My parents freak out when I get a B, even if all my other grades are A's. My dream school is Yale, and my dad always tells me I'm not even going to get into community college when I a B on a test or such. On top of that, I have to live up to my genius brother(senior). I'm a sophmore by the way.</p>
<p>sameee... my parents are like 'i hope your grades are good' ... i don't tell them my grades until my report card which is always good. they also think that if i send in my RD apps too late (Dec. for them) that I will be at the 'bottom of the stack'. they are such idiots.</p>
<p>haha my parents want me to work really hard for all of my grades AND get all A's...but they won't murder me if I don't because all I need is an overall A average by the end of the year.</p>
<p>My parents are the opposite... They are so understanding but you could still see disappointment in their eyes when I screw up badly... this makes me feel even worse then I would if they had screamed at me... </p>
<p>I seriously want to get financial aid so I don't have to burden them in college.</p>
<p>I pretty much lost that coveted 4.0 after my freshman year. I took chemistry, and since I'm not exactly science inclined, I was one point away from an A and it knocked my GPA down. My dad was so mad that he wouldn't let me play tennis my junior year because he thought I was losing my focus.</p>
<p>This year, I'm a senior, and I'm applying to six schools. One of them, of course, has to be Leland Stanford Junior University. I'm pressuring myself to do well because I just want to see what I'm capable of, but the first nine weeks wasn't too impressive. The only A I got was in Government, which was pretty much on the skin of my teeth. When my dad told saw my first quarter report card, he got really mad and had implied that there was no way Stanford would admit me if I had 3 B's and only 1 A. (I'm on block scheduling.)</p>
<p>Yes, the pressure is unnerving, and I have to say that I beat myself up (I thought what he said and perhaps how he said it was a low blow) because the pressure is unnerving. I'm the first one in my family to attend college. My mom is from the Philippines and she couldn't afford to keep going to school, and my sister dropped out. I understand where my parents are coming from with the pressure to succeed, but at the same time, there is no way they can really understand what's going on in my mind. I'm tired of the pressure, but at the same time, it's my cornerstone whenever I feel myself slacking.</p>
<p>My two cents... sorry if it's a bit of a killer to read.</p>
<p>My parents don't care in the ways I'd like them to. They yell at me to sign up for standard classes, yell when I stay up late to complete assignments, and yell when I don't get an "A." Mostly, they just want me to get my crap done to do work around the house. They could careless if I went to a community college.</p>
<p>Fortunately, I'm not under any parental pressure. My parents admire me for working really hard on my schoolwork and my grades always end up pretty good anyways. Overall though, I think my parents are more worried about my extracurricular activities than my grades.</p>
<p>It's so funny, my parents are the exact opposite of most CC parents. I come home and my parents order me to relax and watch TV. They get really mad when I'm up past nine working and threaten to make me drop classes if I don't get more sleep. When I get upset about grades I get lectured about how unimportant grades are in the grand scheme of things...it actually get's a little annoying after a while.</p>