<p>NorthMinnesota, I agree that it should not be done on trying to figure out which of two great places is slightly better than the other on some academic rating system (most of which are flawed anyway). If the schools virtually a tie, then look at location, nature of the students, what's the place like, feel, and the like. I am always amazed at the "should it be Harvard or Yale?" questions and other similar comparisons about equally outstanding schools. In the end it won't be the slight differences of program ratings, it will be all the other things that lead to success in a career and life. I have said it elsewhere, if it boils down to those two and you can't decide flip a coin, or determine if you would rather be in Boston or New Haven.</p>
<p>i never said not to post, just that it can be very helpful to "let go" for a few days/week...to let the information take hold...and when you do that, concerns will aften sort themselves out...what seems uber important may not seem such a big deal after not hunting down all the details for a few days and will allow for thinking, pondering </p>
<p>We can get so caught up in all the details, that we lose the big picture and keep second guessing our own judgements and feelings and instincts</p>
<p>I mean, what harm is it to just go, phew, for the next couple of days, lets not talk college choice</p>
<p>I know most of my Ds friends would be relieved</p>
<p>I think in my case, my S and I are not really discussing right now. We are waiting on one last piece of information - and until that comes in, there isn't alot we can "decide" or really even discuss. I am sure that it is all percolating in the back of his mind. </p>
<p>I don't think there is any harm in coming on here and asking questions. I highly doubt my son has ever been to this site - that is just not his style. Questions I ask are more for my own piece of mind and to ask guidance from those who have been there.</p>
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<p>As I posted early on in response to your opening post on my "H or Y" thread, I agree with you that for SOME, your “leave it alone” approach may be the right one. For others, gathering specific information about specific issues can be vital. Please try to understand that what works for one does not work for all. </p>
<p>But let me try to explain something to you. Your statement that </p>
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<p>has a tendency to make those posters uncomfortable, reluctant to post. There are real people on the other end of your computer screen.</p>
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And when i see a post- Harvard or Princeston- help me decide- I really wonder about the posters real motives for posting
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<p>This is something that I find rather depressing - that people have such a high level of jealousy, or whatever else, that they automatically impute other motives to what are, in most cases, simple requests for information.</p>
<p>I am inclined to agree with the last 2 posters. Many people come here to get feedback, information from people who have had personal experience with these schools, to think aloud, etc. It seems unnecessary and unkind to call their motives into question. Their motives are likely no less disengenuous than those of some who start thread after thread after thread after thread on a variety of seemingly important or unimportant topics. Lets not throw stones....</p>