<p>Thanks for the reminder. With older child doing ED last year and younger one still in middle school, I haven’t had to go through this. I keep reminding myself not to ask the seniors and their parents about schools right now. I am curious to know where everyone is going, but I am keeping that in check until information is volunteered. And then I will be positive.</p>
<p>Very true! And very un-CClike</p>
<p>My son is already feeling a bit guilty because a friend of his with better stats is waitlisted at Chicago - but he didn’t apply early.</p>
<p>I’m finding it hard not to ask my son’s good friend (son is junior, friend is senior). He already got into one good school and is waitlisted at another too. I think next year I’ll try to frame things in terms of ‘reach’ or safety or ‘school he really likes’ rather than focusing on names.
But it won’t be easy! Do schools send physical letters on the same date as the emails?</p>
<p>Lafalum84 I had to laugh when I read your post…Isn’t it funny that all of the sudden the school that rejected you/waitlisted you is not that great anymore? My D experienced the same thing with one of her friends last week when the friend started trashing D’s school that she is sooo excited to attend…jealousy maybe? D does know where she is going but her two best friends are still waiting to hear from the same shcool…it will not be good if one gets in and the other doesn’t…D is in the middle…not a great place to be.</p>
<p>Yes, I’ve been very curious to find out where S’s friends have been accepted and are going to attend. I try to find out by tangentially broaching the topic with S, but I’m probably pretty transparent. </p>
<p>S posted each acceptance on his facebook; he’s not ivy material, so I don’t think he’s stepped on anyone’s dream. And he was happy for friends that received large merit scholarships to prestigious schools.</p>
<p>It’s always nice to find a truely kind and supportive thread. Keep up the good advice. I’ve taken to asking “Any news /thing to share on the college front?” Gives the opportunity to pass, but let’s them know I 'm thinking of them during this process.</p>
<p>In college I consistently outperformed my best friend on SATs/ACT scores. It really bugged him. I always told him that the scores don’t matter but he always felt bad. Then we went to an event where I won a scholarship based on my scores, and he didn’t win one. Of course he felt bad.</p>
<p>The unfortunate thing that I could never explain is he was a heck of a lot smarter than I was. However, I could work a lot faster and process information quicker which helped on a timed exam. </p>
<p>Today he designs and tests weapons for the US military, so I think he did alright despite his lower scores than me.</p>
<p>Love this thread…yes, we need to mindful…one seniors reach school may very well be a best friends ED accepted school…we just need to always be cognizant of how we view situations and what we say…<br>
And oh yes- great idea, will plan to keep the freezer filled with all different flavors of ice cream…so we can plan to celebrate, celebrate, celebrate…!</p>
<p>Best wishes to all…may all our children have dreams come true!</p>
<p>I had a brief conversation this morning with ds, saying “I know I don’t need to tell you this, but you have an embarrassment of riches on the college front and others might not be so lucky so make sure that if people start discussing college outcomes, you’re not boastful, alright?” I know, he said.</p>
<p>I think you meant HS, not college, seniors. It is equally tough for the grad school hopefuls in this shrunken economy who apply to top xx schools only but find the number of students taken has been drastically cut so many places due to lack of funding. These students can’t go to a lesser school and hope to transfer. It is a shocking year.</p>
<p>Wis-- not to derail the thread, but are a lot of potential grad students finding this is the case? I hadn’t heard that, but then, why would I have? That’s unfortunate, if true.</p>
<p>Good point. Never miss out on an opportunity to be gracious. </p>
<p>Good luck to all of you still waiting for admission news.</p>
<p>My S and my niece are both seniors, waiting for the majority of their decisions. S got into a school he thought of as a safety, my niece was waitlisted there. She thought of it as safety too. My sister has been running down this school for days now! Luckily only one more school overlaps. Her #2 choice near the bottom for him. I hope the news is good this week. Tact may well be needed. From both families!</p>
<p>acm, I guess I should count my blessings that my family is clueless abut many of the places on ds’s list. And I don’t have the heart to tell my 81yo dad that ds really loves the school all the way across the country.</p>
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Hey! When I was attritted, I wasn’t just anyone, I was <em>me</em>. And look, I turned okay, a CC junkie and— and— oh, never mind.</p>
<p>Sorry TheDad! You’re good enough and smart enough, and by golly we LIKE you! ;)</p>