Acceptance Shaming ("she only got in because she's _______")

"What if I won a soccer tournament, and was about to receive the trophy with my team, but then suddenly another team, just because they were wearing the color pink, the favorite color of the tournament director, gets to receive the trophy and the tournament win? This pink team didn’t earn that trophy. My team did. And if this pink team is going to march around being proud of their “hard-earned accomplishment”, they had better be called out on it. "
@Suchwowmuchcool‌ this is one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever read. Unless you sat and watched the admissions committee make their decisions, how can you possibly know that you were “about” to get an acceptance? You don’t. A URM kid did not take the acceptance from you. You just didn’t get accepted because that particular school didn’t want you there. Get over it.

@Suchwowmuchcool‌: “The URM kids received the accomplishment essentially because of their skin color.” Stop generalizing. If every kid of color never truly accomplishes anything then please explain how I just graduated from
my extremely competitive prep school with high honors, got a 12 on the ACT essay each time I took it, am published on Huffington Post, and received full merit rides to the majority of the schools I applied to? URM kids are just as capable as anyone else when they have the resources and tools needed. I repeat, stop generalizing. You’re clearly bitter but it’s ugly and you need to stop. Have fun in college next year. @Pigtails‌’ daughter and I will think about you while at Bowdoin and Penn.

Suchwow. It is not private schools but schools of affluence that do matter and many of them are private , schools like Harvard Westlake, Stuyvesant, Boarding schools like Exeter, all give students an advantage whether it’s exposure to curriculum or a better understanding of the admissions process. In the city I live in the Yale ad com visited Two schools why only those two schools?. 45 % of Yale’s entering class of 2017 did not attend public schools. That does not factor in students who go to elite public schools like Stuyvesant or live in neighborhoods that have more financial resources for education than others. I believe the academic affluence of your school does matter and I’ve tried to put my children in those situations. Your thoughts on financial affluence are a little skewed so let’s just leave it at this. Having the financial resources to aid and abet your child academic life matters. Those who don’t have those opportunities should be viewed in a different light. There are issues that can impact the academic path of a student especially in the case of minorities (Asians included) that go beyond just having the opportunity to be exposed to the right information or the ability to attend the right school or coming from a family that has had some financial success. And please and maybe most important the preponderance of URMS on these campuses are outstanding students and would have been admitted regardless of ethnicity and have grades and testing that falls within or above what elite universities report in their common data set. Are there aberrations yes, but they come in all shape sizes and colors.

@collegebound752, my D very much liked Bowdoin, and was accepted. She just found the town so tiny and isolated - I hope you love it there!

@suchwowmuchcool, I agree with the others, you have dug yourself a hole. Your position has no backup, no data, no record of fact. You mention studies that are prejudicial and contested. I am solely going off data sets. In opinion vs. data (i.e. graduation dates you somehow dismiss,) there are solid facts. You don’t have to like or agree with them, but they are there nonetheless.

You have a soft spot for the disadvantaged, cool. I don’t agree that the plight of one group supercedes that of another. Again, neither do the admission committees. Each case is individual.

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You all ought to sit back and think about what happened last weekend at UCSB - you are all trying to argue your point about URMS, shaming, etc… In the grand scheme of things, this is so unimportant…Someones children lost their lives because of some sicko, you and your kids are alive and well - please think about that for a moment…

So we shouldn’t discuss topics of interest to us because of sickos in the world? That will always be, sadly. But it has nothing to do with this thread.

This thread has finally died, let it rest @momofboymidma‌

a sad testament to the world we live in…

Yes, you are.

@picktails - you are living in your own little bubble - college kids died last week, god forbid, could have been yours or mine, i think momofboys point was to f’in move on…

So @streetcred, you will no longer post anything? You’re letting everything go because of the shooting of the week? Don’t believe it - the topics are in no way related. And I am an anti-gun activist! But I save THAT discussion for other threads. You are the one continuing this conversation.

Streetcred, yes was it was horrific what happened at UCSB…but that has nothing to do with this thread or any other thread on CC. Maybe we should not discuss NY rental apartments or weight loss either? Some people need to stop thinking they are the official thread police.

Streetcred…don’t pm me rude things. I am not a black racist as you just called me. I am very much a blond caucasian. Me, the racist? Don’t think so. Check yourself.

omg - pretty sure she thinks I’m black as well! She is the very definition of racist. And quite the hypocrite, as well. Someone pm’d me recently asking if I’d reported her, but toying with the lesser among us is much more fun.

Besides calling me a black racist she also said we were all warped people and idiots. #-o

@picktails @GA2012MOM‌

Didn’t @streetcred post something on this thread yesterday? AFTER the tragic situation at UCSB? I’m starting to think that she was born with a few missing chromosomes. I think we should pity her instead of being annoyed. She is the one who got the thread started up again. NO ONE had posted since May 24th. But she decided to recycle it when she posted a bumble bee. She is a sad pathetic woman. Maybe drug & alcohol interventions are needed.

Yep, didn’t understand the bumblebee.

I’m sure she doesn’t understand her actions either. Very sad.

Okay; it has now been established beyond any doubt that there are no longer any moderators watching this site.