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Happens on these boards all the time. The waitlisted and “rejected” blaming the many URM, athletes, legacies, “hooked” peers who must have taken THEIR seat at XYZ U, for without them, they most assuredly would have been accepted. Or not.
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I didn’t read the whole article but this happened to DD after her acceptance to Yale. I should have warned her, but I didn’t expect it to come from a student at her uber diverse school. The perpetrator? An Asian girl whose stats aren’t as good as DDs and has no clue as to what DD has been doing for the past 3 3/4 years. DD suggested that they print their respective transcripts & resumes and compare. The girl walked away in a huff. Lol when you try to give people proof, they slither away.
I saw some of this at my kid’s school. Sad but predictable. After he got into his first choice, I told him to be prepared for this kind of sours grapes, and that he should rise above it.
It’s sad that it’s so relatable.
You can see the data for acceptances and rejections for your own high school on Naviance. What is the difference between “shaming” and acknowledging the truth?
@siliconvalleymom
Lol…Let’s call it what it is…jealousy! Pure & simple…but it’s okay! She worked her behind off and the proof is in the 3 Ivy League acceptances and other top LACs.
DD is in the top 5% of her class! amazing Ecs that are very unique, rigorous/interesting summer experiences each summer, amazing LORs that brought tears to my eyes, great ACT SCORES, she took a rigorous course load, doubling up on sciences, language and math for 3 years. Dual enrollment at our local state college, lots of awards…
Haters will always hate! It’s so unbecoming.
Sadly, I find myself encouraging my D, a strong double legacy at her first choice school, to compete for a recruiting spot in her sport. The donor/legacy card would be more powerful but I worry that she’d feel like she only got in because of her family. At least if she’s recruited for her sport she can attribute any success she receives to her own efforts.
Oh yes, she was the first student at her school to be able to take an AP course in sophomore year because of her proven hard work in freshman year!!! W
@Sue22 @siliconvalleymom
There is a boy who is #1 at DDs school…an incredible young man who is just perfect in every way! His dad is a professor at Yale and the master of one of the residential colleges. He got into Harvard & Princeton. This same Asian girl said he only got in because his dad is a Yale Prof…said my dd got into all of her schools(including Yale) to fill a black quota…lol again, jealousy!!! She has an excuse for everyone beating her at her own game. And what’s hysterical is that she is #20 in the class…and had no idea what it takes to get into an Ivy and tried!!!
She told me last spring she was definitely going to Stanford or Yale. Those were the only 2 schools she was applying to…I just sat & listened quietly…laughed inside at her smugness…DD is very humble and never brags about her accomplishments…and gets embarassed when they are brought up. The day she said these vitriolic things about DD, DD suggested that they print their respective transcripts & resumes(right there, on the spot to avoid resume doctoring) the girl walked away red and in a huff…lol. When they are faced with hard facts, they can’t deal…oh well!!!
Hate to hear those stories @NewHavenCTmom but I am glad that your daughter doesn’t let it get to her 
It stung…but I told her to get over it because she was going to hear it again! So get ready for the next round…and that when people can’t say certain things about you…they hurl the black quota phrase at you…it’s just as demeaning and hurtful. Especially when she has literally busted her hump to follow her passions(taking early morning trains to the aquarium where she is a docent and to NYC for another EC, workshops on Saturdays to improve her tutoring skills, she is a literacy volunteer) I forgot to add, she works a part time job…all those summers when this girl was hanging out, DD was at programs and doing medical research at YSM…et al…
What gets me is that the sense of entitlement…it’s so ballsy!
Your daughter deserves all of the good things that come her way 
I am glad that people like my article.
@collegebound752 isn’t it interesting how very few people have responded? Very interesting indeed!
It’s both interesting and sad.
I loved this article! I think college shaming happens all the time, and I also think that almost everybody is guilty of it at some point. I posted the article on my company’s Facebook page. Over 250 people saw the article (on corporate pages Facebook keeps track of how many are the article). I went to the website where it was originally posted, and I noticed there were other great articles so now I’m going to regularly read the website!
That makes me so happy :0
What “truth” are you talking about? Do you imagine colleges send guidance counselors letters explaining this student got in because he’s black and that one got in because she’s an athlete? You have no idea why certain students were accepted to particular colleges, so there’s no “truth” to acknowledge. Only assumptions based on incomplete records about children whose qualifications you can’t possibly know, regarding a process that involves a combination of objective and subjective criteria you don’t have access to, made by people who have a better idea of the types of students their college wants than you do.
@NewHavenCTMom - yes your daughter does sound ‘amazing’ but there are so many just like her, like my ‘amazing’ child who deserve entrance to these ivies. With the common app,etc… alot of it is crapshoot now AND it is true that these schools to have to diversify. If my child like yours who is in the top 5% of his class were paired against your amazing daughter he’d likely not have a chance at a school like Yale, because they want diversity. I think my son is pretty amazing but I guess we all think our kid are.
Why wouldn’t he have a chance? That sounds to me like you think NewHavenCTmom’s DD only got accepted to Yale because she’s black.