<p>okay. so i am going to a college that is about 1000 miles from home. i thought that i could easily make the transition from my life at home to here, at college. however, i have found that a lot of the people here are much different from me. believe me, i am completely open to new kinds of people. that's why i came here. the only thing is that it can be kind of hard to start conversations with these people. also, i am pretty shy in the first place. i really want to not be so shy. i have been working on that for a while actually, but it can be pretty difficult sometimes. i basically just want to know that there are some people that have gone through this or are even going through it right now. i don't know if what i want is advice or maybe i just want someone else to talk to about this whole situation.</p>
<p>You aren't alone....easy adjustment is in the rear view mirror as opposed to the view through the foggy windshield. Give yourself some time, join group activities.....any that you come across. Many folks are shy and make the leap, you will too.</p>
<p>Your feelings are normal, even for people who go to college close to home.
I went through it in college, a place about a 4-hour drive from my hometown. It took me more than a year to feel comfortable. The lessons that I learned there about meeting people and joining extracurriculars have stood me well for a lifetime.</p>
<p>I was very shy when I went to college, and I was from a very small town. After college, I was less shy, and a lot more comfortable in big cities. Now, I'm not shy at all, and I am confortable going on business trips and similar things to places that I haven't been to before.</p>
<p>Most students around you probably seem very confident, but think about it: You probably don't tell people whom you meet in college how difficult a time you're having adjusted. In fact, you probably seem confident to toher people particularly since you had the guts to go so far from home.</p>
<p>Try to join one or two extracurriculars that interest you. Most groups are particularly eager to have new members join fall semester. That's a great way of meeting people who like the kind of things that you do, and who could eventually become your close friends.</p>