<p>My D has been saying for the past couple of months that her roommates are not clean and that she has to do most of the cleaning in the kitchen and the bathroom or it is gross. There are six girls living in the suite and they share a kitchen and bathroom. Now they have an end of semester inspection of the suite coming up and the roommates said they would just pay a fine and not clean. D told them she is not paying a fine so she is cleaning herself. </p>
<p>So what I really need thoughts from all of you on is that D wants to request a change of rooms for next semester. D is the only musical theatre major in the suite and she has many more hours of classes than the other girls because of daily dance and because she likes to be busy. D feels like the other girls are just not as serious about school as she and they are more into "drama" in their lives than D. She also tends to be neat (which she put on her housing form) and likes to live in a clean space. She also takes very good care of her health as she worries about being sick and the effects on her voice.</p>
<p>I suggested that she write down reasons why she would like to change rooms focusing on the different lifestyle she has from her suitemates and not on them as individuals. D was going to set up a time to speak with her RA this week to see where there might be an open space for next semester. It may be too late to make a change, but she at least wanted to try. Any additional advice I should give D?</p>
<p>I don’t blame her for wanting to switch - she already gave it a semester.</p>
<p>Does she know any other students in the dorm that might have room for an additional roomie that wouldn’t mind her moving in? If so then maybe she can state to the RA that she found another location to live and would like to do the switch. This way it’s easier on the RA and maybe, depending on the rules at that college, easier to do.</p>
<p>D just put in for room change 2 weeks ago .Had to go above RA and was told that probably won’t happen and that these requests were done a while ago.She still took paper work and filled it out to see if she gets lucky.She is willing to change dorms if need be.Won’t know until after winter break.</p>
<p>I hate these kinds of stories because the remind me of housemates past who were more than happy to take advantage of me. It is so much better to have housemates who are interested in things being fair. I agree with uscd<em>ucla</em>dad, she shouldn’t be too passive about this. Try to find some a place that she can move and then approach the housing office about making that work. Or look for someone who wants to switch rooms, another slob perhaps who is driving her own neater roommates crazy.</p>
<p>D found the online form she needs to fill out with the housing office and is doing that today. She is also talking with all of her friends to see if any of them have roommates that may want to switch. D has to stay in her current dorm as it is the designated freshman dorm. Thanks for all the suggestions so far.</p>
<p>There may be available spaces when she returns for spring semester that the school will not be aware of until then. Kids do not return back to school for different reasons. My daughter changed rooms midsemester. She found the vacant space and then asked the Director of Housing for permission to move. She had no problem getting permission. We even got money reimbursed as her new dorm was less expensive (less amenities). Happily, daughter has been more satisfied with the move.</p>