<p>Hello, I am new to this site, it's so informative. My D wants to become a Dr. She is a great student. 4.0 so,so SAT 1310 (2020) She has been accepted to many schools with merit. We are waiting to hear from J. Hopkins 1st choice. If she's not acceptd she is considering U Delaware, accepted into Honors program with merit. Will cost 16k per year. She also got accepted to Lehigh, no merit will cost 46k. We are not eligible for aid. She wants Lehigh for all the wrong reasons, a little bit snobby about the class rankings. I really need some advise.What would you do?</p>
<p>Putting aside the fact that she may ultimately change her minde about pre-med (as the vast majority of undergrads do):</p>
<p>Lets go with that for a moment....</p>
<p>Are you paying her full bill? Have you considered making her take out a student loan anyway? (Even if you did just intend to pay it for her, maybe if you actually make her think about the costs, including what it costs to go to med school these days (on her OWN dime), then maybe she might wake up.</p>
<p>Paying extra $30K per year to go to Lehigh instead of U. Delaware Honors College? I think you and you DD need to visit both campus to do comparative shopping to justify doing this.</p>
<p>We told our daughter we would pay for her undergrad after that she was on her own. If she takes a deal then we can also help her with med. school.We will take loans in her name for several reasons, but we will pay them if it is for undergrad.</p>
<p>The best advice anyone can give you is to talk to alumni of the various schools and see what they say. More often than not, they are willing to advise you.</p>
<p>Also talk to doctors and other professionals that have experience with the schools.</p>
<p>Also make sure you take out loans in the kid's name, because that way the huge price premium can actually be ... you know... felt.</p>
<p>Try to make honest, unbiased comparisons between the two, and see where she ends up feeling the happiest. However, I think that it is perfectly legitimate to remind your D that there is X amount of money available for her education--either she gets all of Lehigh paid now, and is on her own later, or she gets all of UDel paid now, and help with med school/grad school of choice later. Make it clear that at least financially, you don't care where she ends up (it'll cost you the same in the long run), and let the chips fall where they may. If she truly wants to attend Lehigh, she will still be able to, but with the understanding that the cost of attendence is the last of the tuition money that she will be receiving from you.</p>