<p>h4ileyst4r and Kali22,</p>
<p>It is true that first and second generation Asians tend to be reared by “tiger Moms”, view almost anyone, including whites as beneath them and certainly do not like to associate with or be warm and friendly to those unlike themselves. I used to think it was shyness or that they may have felt the sting of prejudice, but the longer I work with them and come to understand their culture I don’t think that is it at all. Their culture is tremendously different in their over values about education, feelings, interdependance and connectedness concerning self identity and those defined as “other”. I feel this SIGNIFICANTLY changes once second and third generation children become acculturated. No judgement or criticism meant, but just the facts as I have studied ( I am a social worker from Berkeley ) and worked in the groups. I myself did marry an Indian Asian ( who appears AA as he is very dark skinned, from the south of India ) and have come to learn how VERY different this culture is from mine and AA’s. ( had I known this I would have married an AA, but that’s another story, LOL ).</p>
<p>Also I agree with Silvern above that no one gets into a UC “because of their race”! Race is probably experienced differently in different departments. As a blue eyed white person from the midwest, I felt that everyone in the SOcial welfare Dept at Berkeley automatically treated me as if I were some debutante that belongs to the Daughters of the American Revolution, if not the Republican party. I felt that I would have been more accepted if I had been Hispanic, etc. I’m sure that isn’t the experience in the business classes, for example. </p>
<p>At the end of the day, let’s face it, racism is ugly and of course it exists. Less than in the 60’s and 70’s but of course its out there. Its hoe YOU choose to deal with it. If Obama and Oprah worried about their skin color, what people thought of them and their odds, they wouldn’t be the president of the US and the hihest paid, most popular media person around. But they didn’t let that stop them and millions of whites voted for , watch and support them. </p>
<p>Similarly, I am from a very poor downward drift white family. Less polite society would call my upbringing “white trash” or the more class concious “trailer trash”. No one in my family went to college, the men were alcoholics, truck drivers, often abandoned their familes. The women tended to work two or 3 low level jobs, smoked, had a defeatist, “I am a victim” view of life and got pregnant as an adolescent, as did their offspring. When I decided I wanted to break out of the downward drift, my family and siblings called me “uppity”. I did not fit into either world. But if i just accepted the way things were I wouldn’t have changed them. I went on to get my MS and have an upper middle class life for my children. </p>
<p>Essentially, life is hard and it is a jungle out there. People do often judge or dismiss us for unfair reasons. DON’T BUY IT! Go to UC, be proud of how you look, where you came from and who you are; EXPECT people to like and appreciate you. Make your own life at UC and keep making it better. You can do whatever you want, and for the most part it is considered ignorant and distasteful ( kinda like smoking ) and a dirty habit to be racist. Focus on the positive, DO NOT buy into scanning for the negative. *uck the racists, or anyone who doesn’t see the HUGE contribution AA’s make everyday; they are a dying breed. Don’t give them power by worrying what they think or how they will treat you. There will be PLENTY of good people to connect with.</p>