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Ok i know this is a little blunt. But for some reason it seems that in all the relationships i've had, all the girls want is money/luxury... am i being too idealistic in that there is a girl who will want a relationship but without emptying my wallet?
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Girls don't want money, they want psychological validation. </p>
<p>Of course, money is one of the best conveyors of validation (the brag potential of having a rich boyfriend, and the receiving of expensive gifts), but it's hardly the only one, or even the best one. You can be broke and have a girlfriend all your friends will envy, it just takes a little more skill.</p>
<p>Here's what my deceased friend explained on a diagram in Middle School: Girls want money. Money is the root of all evil. Therefore girls are evil. I hold this self-evident wisdom close to my heart!</p>
<p>URGH!!! i'm so sick. so disgusted... humans are like animals...so barbarous...</p>
<p>that is why i will never stop dreaming..</p>
<p>*a cloudy day. with lumps of dark. patches.
a lean woman in a white dress runs out from an mansion.
she skips and starts to sing in a lanugage that i cannot understand. a language far away from the East.</p>
<p>she swings in the meadows, so cheerful, ever smiling. her eyes so dark, so lacking in the rude passions. then i realized that it was a dream*</p>
<p>Aragon: What troubles you?
Whiney girl: Oh nothing lord....just....my window doesn't face the East.</p>
<p>(Aragon's thoughts: This stupid spolied brat! To the east is a mountain-there is no view! Well if I do what she wants she'll marry me, which is the same as going to bed with me.)</p>
<p>Aragon: Of course. I'll have my servents see to it immediately.</p>
<p>Whiney girl: <em>smiles bashfully</em></p>
<p>Aragon: <em>mimics her blush like a perfect actor</em></p>
<p>Of course, money is one of the best conveyors of validation (the brag potential of having a rich boyfriend, and the receiving of expensive gifts), but it's hardly the only one, or even the best one. You can be broke and have a girlfriend all your friends will envy, it just takes a little more skill.
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<p>I agree with this basically.</p>
<p>And I have never really thought that women as a generalization only want money, in spite of my jokes above. Nor do I think that what drives the action of men is exclusively their desire for sex (the desire may be nearly omnipresent, but that doesn't explain how men act necessarily).</p>
<p>I think if you find a woman that likes you 'cause of your mojo, not your money, and you like her, stick with her.</p>
<p>All the girls I've met seem to have money on their mind whether that be in the present or in a future husband they plan to marry.</p>
<p>As in the great words of Dave Chappelle: Guys don't buy things because we necessarily like them, we buy things because we know girls like them. A guy would **** in a cardboard box if he could but since he wouldn't get a lot of girls with that he buys the multi-million dollar mansion. Cars are the bait for girls and guys put out the hook. When one comes running up to it you're like " gotcha *****".</p>
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<p>I do, and it really disgusts me. Just knowing that I can get any girl by just increasing my income is really sad. Its made me lose a lot of respect for women. I used to be very idealistic about love until I began to realize the truth.</p>
<p>In the words of Dave Chappelle: Before I became rich I could hardly get a girlfriend, now its like my dick is made out of gold. </p>
<p>But hey you can't hate the game in this instance because you'll only come out the loser, you just have to play it the best way you can. And that means getting as much money as you can.</p>
<p>Studies (somewhere) have shown that women look for providers, so I guess that could cover a lot of bases including emotional support and money, perhaps whatever thing a woman feels she needs most.</p>
<p>hmm..so here we are at the crux of psychology and philosophy (and the determinism vs free will debate)... humans reduced to barbarous animals... gotta love it.
I guess every action and reaction is simply driven by a man's desire for sex with a woman and that woman's own desires and resultant actions of dangling her sexuality in front of him in return for some money and support.... there goes all the idealism about love...or humanity in the first place! lol...</p>
<p>Well...at least that means we're not really responsible for our actions since they're all deterministic anyway! ;-)</p>
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I do, and it really disgusts me. Just knowing that I can get any girl by just increasing my income is really sad. Its made me lose a lot of respect for women. I used to be very idealistic about love until I began to realize the truth.</p>
<p>In the words of Dave Chappelle: Before I became rich I could hardly get a girlfriend, now its like my dick is made out of gold.
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<p>If you think you can get any girl just 'cause you make a lot of money, you will find the girls who prove you right. But that won't be any girl, though I'll concede it might be a lot of girls.</p>
<p>At one point I dated a very attractive and, in her own circle, kind of famous woman. I wasn't much of anything financially, though she was courted by this rich guy (I was unaware at first he was courting her). We went to New York one weekend and stayed in his multi-level, plush apt. in Manhattan. When he called her and I inadvertently answered the phone and thanked him for his hospitality, I quickly discovered the true nature of his hospitality. The fact is my girlfriend wasn't at all impressed by his wealth.</p>
<p>One of my best friends told me she'd sleep with Bill Clinton in a second. Women are often attracted to fame or power. Money is just an obvious expression of this. Dave Chappelle may have found himself a lot of ho's -- or more likely he found himself women who were attracted to his fame. There's a difference. Apparently when the Beatles used to tour the States, women would line up backstage basically to screw them according to the reports of acts that toured with them. Henry Kissinger said "power is the great aphrodisiac." Power and fame trump money, IMO, though often these things go hand in hand.</p>
<p>The nature of my advice to the original poster was the same, by the way. He only finds women interested in emptying his wallet. But he is the one emptying his wallet; if he stopped doing so, he might find the women that didn't care about this as much. If you are about money, you will find the women who will like you for what you are about.</p>