<p>Ok i know this is a little blunt. But for some reason it seems that in all the relationships i've had, all the guys want is the physical stuff... am i being too idealistic in that there is a guy who will want a relationship but without any physical stuff?</p>
<p>It's not a relationship if it's not physical at all. It's friendship.</p>
<p>im sure thats not ALL he wants....of course sex is nice, yes it is.</p>
<p>Some guys only want sex. I always thought it was relatively easy to tell.</p>
<p>But also some guys will jump through hoops and be in a relationship JUST for the sex and leave you. I never had to deal with that so I don't know how to identify those guys.</p>
<p>But a lot of guys... I think most guys... would like to be in a relationship with a girl they feel for. I mean, they are not robots. They have feelings, too. But just because he asks for sex doesn't mean he's with you only for sex.</p>
<p>Just because a guy seems to want physical stuff alot doesn't mean that it is all he wants. Guys are very hormone driven and like to think with their second head sometimes. Especially if its someone between the ages of 17-21. There are other things you need to look for if you think he is it only for physical stuff though. Does he get cold with you if you refuse or does he respect your decision and not let it get to him? If he gets distant or cold, that is a clear sign that the only thing he wanted was sex and that anything else isn't good enough. Hey, I love sex, but I would never hold it against my gf if she didn't want to do it. I just love being with her, thats all that really matters. Just use your power of judgement to see if thats how he sees it also</p>
<p>yes .</p>
<p>all girls want is sex too, dont lie</p>
<p>no, not necessarily (and I would hope -- albeit hopelessly -- that it never is "all a guy wants")</p>
<p>there are certainly guys who have allowed their "second head" to pretty much become their only head...but that is certainly not all guys, and I know quite a few other guys who value relationship far more than the physical; however, as has been said, part of what differentiates a friendship from a romantic relationship is the physical aspect (not even talking sex here -- just the kissing, caressing, hand-holding, cuddling, etc.)
To me... anything physical without a relationship behind it would be completely empty. That is definitely not what I want in terms of relating with women....</p>
<p>it is what all they want for most men, but there are others who seek MUCH MORE, or i should say ONLY one thing: the chance to suffer, to feel the noble pain of rejection and neglect. </p>
<p>just the existence of the very few whose beauty never imagined satisfies me. all i want is romance. not the sticky, impulsive animalistic one of the early 1800's driven by sex, but a TRUE one where the man is alone...where he suffers.</p>
<p>Does that question really need an answer?</p>
<p>ill put it this way, since i've said a few things on this forum that seem blunt and sexist and things such as that.</p>
<p>What I want: A girl that I can share my interests with, who can share hers with me, we can do different things and both be interested in them, someone who can hold a conversation. I want to be able to sit in silence and not feel like i have to talk, and just relax. The sex part is great, but it can only happen fast if there's that click, where you just know what the other person is thinking and all that. I've only known one girl where that's happened. </p>
<p>Guys do want sex, that's given, but not all guys just want sex. Most guys don't know what real companionship is, or how amazing it really can be. The physical drive is strong.</p>
<p>Note to girls though: Don't string a guy along if you don't have any real plans for him, all it does it p!ss guys off and give you a bad reputation. </p>
<p>Note to guys: Don't only talk about sex and take a solely logical arguement with it. I made the mistake of doing that when I was younger and it gives you a bad reputation and only the whores will like you, and they're no fun.</p>
<p>All in all, don't be stupid, and dont push it.</p>
<p>Hope this was useful.</p>
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<p>Yes it does.</p>
<p>It depends on waht type of image you have. If you are more slutty/whorish then guys get into a relationship with you expecting certain things. If you are a hardcore Christian and a guy gets into a relationship with you then he expects different things as well</p>
<p>I've known guys who find younger and morally conservative girls a more attractive target, either an easier target to corrupt or a more valuable victory. Just go to any kind of high school politics/leadership program (you know, the kind that admits like one freshman girl and is dominated by senior boys...what doesn't kill you makes you stronger).</p>
<p>And everyone wants emotional connections, to share their life with someone or a group of people, whether they admit it or not. Purely sex is just an easier, unfulfilling, physically enjoyable, and superficial way for some to feel that emotional connection.</p>
<p>Christine, only a girl dating someone with a small ***** would say that.</p>
<p>I really wish people would get over the mindset that sex and emotional fulfillment are mutually exclusive. I'd be annoyed if my long-term boyfriend refused to have sex with me when I was ready to, and I'm a girl (and single and a virgin, but that's besides the point). Is it really so unreasonable to want both?</p>
<p>^ lol true</p>
<p>agreed 10char</p>
<p>i agree too</p>
<p>seems so : /</p>